Can't bust a nut

[VeryBigBuck]

I posted earlier in the thread about how my GF is able to help me cum inside her almost every time we fuck. I also saw a post that dropped a hint on a technique to maximize friction.

I thought I would share an update. My GF and I have found that the spoons position gets me off every time as of late.

She likes me to start off in good old missionary and give her a good pounding, then after she has reached the fucked silly state, I flip her onto her side and enter her from behind. I hold her hair with the left hand and either her hip or grab her tit with the right hand and shove her on and off my cock until I explode inside her.

[RoC82]

All very informative, thanks for sharing all this info!

Have issues finishing myself, a little while back in a different forum, saw someone calling it Deathgrip Syndrome.

Due to the tight grip we usually use.

[DarkSideOfMe]

I do mostly the SB scene, and I'm in the habit of wearing a condom for obvious reasons and I'm still shooting live ones.

I have found that regular size magnum latex condoms (looser fit) helps. Also some lubricant on penis before sliding on the condom can help. Some girls I can consistently nut with during sex and others it can be difficult.

Edging to the point of almost coming a few times within an hour of meeting seems to help.

I have found the secret of late is to work my normal stroke game for her pleasure / and mine, but when I'm ready to finish, roll her flat face down on the bed and mount her in lazy dog. From this position I can ass slap and grab, but most importantly get a lot of friction plus thrusting speed without a ton of effort and nut every time.

Speed and friction is the key for me.

Not busting for several years, regular, condoms, but what fun to try, yes speed, friction key! Most AMPs are afraid of JR. To big, to long, to hard! Using Trimix, 2. 5 hours of hard fucking, sucking! But have gone to AMPs, good speed, friction, get off with hand job, in a few, and reload? Mind of his own, I guess? Humm.

[Leep12]

I do mostly the SB scene, and I'm in the habit of wearing a condom for obvious reasons and I'm still shooting live ones.

I have found that regular size magnum latex condoms (looser fit) helps. Also some lubricant on penis before sliding on the condom can help. Some girls I can consistently nut with during sex and others it can be difficult.

Edging to the point of almost coming a few times within an hour of meeting seems to help.

I have found the secret of late is to work my normal stroke game for her pleasure / and mine, but when I'm ready to finish, roll her flat face down on the bed and mount her in lazy dog. From this position I can ass slap and grab, but most importantly get a lot of friction plus thrusting speed without a ton of effort and nut every time.

Speed and friction is the key for me.

[VeryBigBuck]

I appreciate your input, I'm sure you are right, this is my struggle. Do you happen to have the link to that article?

https://www.sexualityresource.com/bl...their-partners

Cheers.

[Wild Walleye]

Quote from Web MD - "You may also have a hand in your delayed ejaculation problem. By adopting a masturbation technique that involves intense pressure, friction and speed, some men train themselves to respond to a level of stimulation no partner could duplicate -- at least not without coaching, which the man usually is reluctant to provide.

Michael A. Perelman, PhD, a sex and marital therapist in New York City says he sometimes tries to get men with delayed orgasm to agree to a masturbation moratorium. This does more than stop the practices that may be contributing to the problem. It also allows a build-up of sexual desire, which provides "a mechanism for reducing the threshold of arousal necessary for orgasm," he says. " End quote.

I am over 60 and my current GF is 22, I am able to bust a nut almost every time we fuck. I quit masturbation, that helped but did not work completely. I had her read an online article on how a partner can help with delayed ejaculation, now after I have fucked her silly, she gets me close with her mouth or hands or both then gets on top and I fill her up. .

Years ago, I started experiencing retarded ejaculation with providers. With my SOs, I could bust a nut in a normal amount of time. I'd bang my SO and nut in 20 minutes or so (I could make it last longer, if I wanted). A few days later, I'd be in a South American hotel with a hottie and it might take me three hours to nut (honestly, one night I had two bi chicas and we sucked and fucked for three hours to get out just one load). I figured out a few tricks (doggy style and some light spanking (for her), nutting on her face, or a little mutual masturbation) to try to get me to the point of no return faster.

[Wild Walleye]

My problem is just the opposite. I've always had great control but over the last 2 or 3 years, I've developed premature ejaculation but ONLY with providers! Girlfriends I can still go all night if I want to, almost bust a nut on demand, but with an escort I have NO control. Hot, ugly, don't matter. I recently tried one I knew I wasn't even close to attracted to just to see and same problem. Has to be psychological. Anyone have the same issue, or any suggestions?

Totally in your head. I suspect that you're hyper excited because you're doing something unusually 'naughty. ' What kind of providers do you see? In call or out call? Are you thinking about the potential of getting caught (LE, SO)?

I saw one stripper I know at the club. The lap dance room is dark and fairly private. It is rare that the dancer there don't take your junk out. This trip was no different. She was sexy, about 30. With her hands, butt and tits, she got me off in three songs. When I banged her at her house, two weeks later, I lasted for an hour.

[JustMeForU]

Hydrochlorathiazide, blood pressure (diuretic), viagra (yes there's that), and a slightly unhealthy appreciation for alcohol. And I vape, used to smoke two packs a day(15-20 years) then started vaping in 2009. Vape 22 mg nicotine not sub ohm. I have not not considered if it was the nicotine but it was at least 6 years after I started vaping so am inclined to think otherwise.

Long story short, like 4-5 years ago I started having no / weak erections. Took horny goat weed, worked like a champ for about a year and a half. Back to weak erections. Got with the doctor and got viagra. Side effects were so terrible, figured out I could split the pills in half. Started having the delayed ejaculation problem maybe 4 months after I first started the viagra. Still hate the side effects. Feels like dirty meth / headache.

May have had it longer with out noticing. It had occurred to me when watching porn if one isnt doing it for me, Id switch till I found the one. Feels like that might be it. Plus the 15-20 providers I hooked up with in the last two years. Street rates are cheap here. Im actually pretty picky. Only do the hot ones. Drive past most. Sometimes I feel like its too much of a good thing. Im not talking shit, just seems like it had gotten like too normal. Like buying bread. I know that sounds weird. It is what it is. Just hoping someone knows what Im talking about.

I do really appreciate the replys Ive gotten in this thread. They are all helpful even if they just deal with one part of my problem. Its like a multifaceted thing. Im doing my best to be as honest and complete as I can. Hope it helps me and anyone else going though the same thing.

My problem is just the opposite. I've always had great control but over the last 2 or 3 years, I've developed premature ejaculation but ONLY with providers! Girlfriends I can still go all night if I want to, almost bust a nut on demand, but with an escort I have NO control. Hot, ugly, don't matter. I recently tried one I knew I wasn't even close to attracted to just to see and same problem. Has to be psychological. Anyone have the same issue, or any suggestions?

[Strange]

Are you taking any medications? Anti-depressants? Benzos? Recreational drugs?

Hydrochlorathiazide, blood pressure (diuretic), viagra (yes there's that), and a slightly unhealthy appreciation for alcohol. And I vape, used to smoke two packs a day(15-20 years) then started vaping in 2009. Vape 22 mg nicotine not sub ohm. I have not not considered if it was the nicotine but it was at least 6 years after I started vaping so am inclined to think otherwise.

Long story short, like 4-5 years ago I started having no / weak erections. Took horny goat weed, worked like a champ for about a year and a half. Back to weak erections. Got with the doctor and got viagra. Side effects were so terrible, figured out I could split the pills in half. Started having the delayed ejaculation problem maybe 4 months after I first started the viagra. Still hate the side effects. Feels like dirty meth / headache.

May have had it longer with out noticing. It had occurred to me when watching porn if one isnt doing it for me, Id switch till I found the one. Feels like that might be it. Plus the 15-20 providers I hooked up with in the last two years. Street rates are cheap here. Im actually pretty picky. Only do the hot ones. Drive past most. Sometimes I feel like its too much of a good thing. Im not talking shit, just seems like it had gotten like too normal. Like buying bread. I know that sounds weird. It is what it is. Just hoping someone knows what Im talking about.

I do really appreciate the replys Ive gotten in this thread. They are all helpful even if they just deal with one part of my problem. Its like a multifaceted thing. Im doing my best to be as honest and complete as I can. Hope it helps me and anyone else going though the same thing.

[Strange]

Quote from Web MD - "You may also have a hand in your delayed ejaculation problem. By adopting a masturbation technique that involves intense pressure, friction and speed, some men train themselves to respond to a level of stimulation no partner could duplicate -- at least not without coaching, which the man usually is reluctant to provide.

Michael A. Perelman, PhD, a sex and marital therapist in New York City says he sometimes tries to get men with delayed orgasm to agree to a masturbation moratorium. This does more than stop the practices that may be contributing to the problem. It also allows a build-up of sexual desire, which provides "a mechanism for reducing the threshold of arousal necessary for orgasm," he says. " End quote.

I am over 60 and my current GF is 22, I am able to bust a nut almost every time we fuck. I quit masturbation, that helped but did not work completely. I had her read an online article on how a partner can help with delayed ejaculation, now after I have fucked her silly, she gets me close with her mouth or hands or both then gets on top and I fill her up. .

I appreciate your input, I'm sure you are right, this is my struggle. Do you happen to have the link to that article?

[VeryBigBuck]

I have been cheating with the porn and I still seem to be having the problem. I have this regular I see, 27, blonde, 95 lbs, with the most rocking little body. Cutest ass youve ever seen. Dated her this morning and still couldn't climax. She even let me tie her up with neckties. It's like the perfect setup, has her own room, doesn't rush, and she doesn't break the bank. I'm my own worst enemy. I can't even enjoy a good thing when I have it. I need to get this porn thing under control. Read somewhere it has to do with dopamine. Might try those supplements I talked about in the previous post and see how that goes.

Does anyone think taking a break from the hobby might help. Problem isnt as bad when the girl is brand new to me but I still take a long time.

Quote from Web MD - "You may also have a hand in your delayed ejaculation problem. By adopting a masturbation technique that involves intense pressure, friction and speed, some men train themselves to respond to a level of stimulation no partner could duplicate -- at least not without coaching, which the man usually is reluctant to provide.

Michael A. Perelman, PhD, a sex and marital therapist in New York City says he sometimes tries to get men with delayed orgasm to agree to a masturbation moratorium. This does more than stop the practices that may be contributing to the problem. It also allows a build-up of sexual desire, which provides "a mechanism for reducing the threshold of arousal necessary for orgasm," he says. " End quote.

I am over 60 and my current GF is 22, I am able to bust a nut almost every time we fuck. I quit masturbation, that helped but did not work completely. I had her read an online article on how a partner can help with delayed ejaculation, now after I have fucked her silly, she gets me close with her mouth or hands or both then gets on top and I fill her up. .

[Joeblow300]

Are you taking any medications? Anti-depressants? Benzos? Recreational drugs?

I have been cheating with the porn and I still seem to be having the problem. I have this regular I see, 27, blonde, 95 lbs, with the most rocking little body. Cutest ass youve ever seen. Dated her this morning and still couldn't climax. She even let me tie her up with neckties. It's like the perfect setup, has her own room, doesn't rush, and she doesn't break the bank. I'm my own worst enemy. I can't even enjoy a good thing when I have it. I need to get this porn thing under control. Read somewhere it has to do with dopamine. Might try those supplements I talked about in the previous post and see how that goes.

Does anyone think taking a break from the hobby might help. Problem isnt as bad when the girl is brand new to me but I still take a long time.

[Strange]

I have been cheating with the porn and I still seem to be having the problem. I have this regular I see, 27, blonde, 95 lbs, with the most rocking little body. Cutest ass youve ever seen. Dated her this morning and still couldn't climax. She even let me tie her up with neckties. It's like the perfect setup, has her own room, doesn't rush, and she doesn't break the bank. I'm my own worst enemy. I can't even enjoy a good thing when I have it. I need to get this porn thing under control. Read somewhere it has to do with dopamine. Might try those supplements I talked about in the previous post and see how that goes.

Does anyone think taking a break from the hobby might help. Problem isn’t as bad when the girl is brand new to me but I still take a long time.

[Strange]

Well I mostly stopped watching porn, twice in a week I guess is better than twice a day. Took a tiny spinner to a notell this week and I have to say not watching porn did help with the delayed ejaculation problem I've been having. I popped so quickly (15 minutes) that I throw the girl an extra Jackson for round two. Second round I had the problem again but it didn't bother me as much since I already blew my load besides it was still just fun as hell to be banging a 4'11" 85 lb Latina. I'm going to keep trying to cut out the porn and just rely on my imagination for self gratification. I figured that would be the best way to retrain my brain.

[Strange]

HI, I was in S. Florida and had the luck of having a few girls in several years; one was a "baby" or sort of girlfriend, I saw.

With one pretty girl from Jamaica I had a similar difficulty, but with even the hot "baby" a few times I ended up with 69 and CIM.

What I noticed was iwhen she was very amorous and kissing me and wet and wild I was like Jesus "Behold I come quickly".

However, I also think not looking at porn is useful; I would not look at it at all for a few days before our scheduled rendezvous and this seemed to be a good idea.

If I was with a hot Back page girl which I did before I had figured out the dating scene, the condom made things much harder.

Have you noticed that guys in porn actually have some difficulty sometimes; they edit the ending and the guy comes in her face, but we don't know for how long he was jerking off before he blasted.

I don't believe a blood pressure medication will inhibit the function of viagra or similar since they actually have some similar function on blood vessels presumably.

I believe something we have is a "spider sense" that the female is OK with us but maybe not too hot for us and this can mess up the chemistry.

I would lay off porn, alcohol and take more exercise and outdoor hikes or walks, and go to the gym, I seemed to stop having any such events.

The flip side was one girl I was with thought I was a great lover because I kept fucking her the first time she came over to stay the night; later I confessed to her friend "I was just trying to bust but it wasn't happening so I kept fucking her. ".

Thanks for your thoughts and suggestions. I do think that part of the problem is in my mind. It's almost like I got too much of a good thing and now I can't enjoy it as much. I do find when I can get aroused enough I can. Last time I brought a cucumber to our encounter and that did the trick. Second time I tried that not so much. I just realized this is actually the third regular in two years that this has become a problem with. I think your thoughts about the girl getting into it are pretty spot on. I think I was fine with this girl for a while because I really liked her body type but to be honest she kinda complains a lot(bad knees) during the event and think that might proven to be too much of a distraction. She has such a hot spinner body. It was like fucking your girlfriend when you were 16.

Getting older sucks and I'm only in my mid 40's. If anyone else has any thoughts, tips, or tricks I'd love to hear them as well.

I've thought about trying a supplement called PHOSPHATIDYLSERINE it's supposed to help with autonomic nerve pathways or something. Forgot to mention I have also been having some weird autoimmune stuff as well over the last year or so.

I know it seems like Im all over the map but it kinda feels like my problem is a blend of mental and physical.