Thinking about civvie dating

[FreeWally]

I'm wondering if mongering has raised my standards to a unreasonable level. Thinking about ending it based on the sex and looks, but it feels like I'm being an ass. Should I see beyond her looks and sex or should I aim higher?

You can't have everything. Everyone has their own goals, if you are looking for someone to live with and grow old with, you have to go for personality first. But you also have to be satisfied sexually, and only you know what priority that takes. It sounds like despite her personality her performance is not enough.

For those in this dilemma, you can't get married. With dating, the worst that happens is you have to break up. But, many people have a serious goal that calls for marriage. Don't make promises you can't keep.

She is not going to suddenly get way better in performance and looks. Perhaps it's better to stay friends and say you are not ready after all for a relationship. It's you not her kind of thing if you don't want to burn bridges.

The funny thing is when I was young, I thought eventually as I get old my drive will be much lower, so in the long-run a relationship is more important. It turned out to be a lot more complex than that. Yes my sex drive is lower, maybe 1/5th what it was when young. But since it's baked into personality it still matters to me. It mattered to my dad even after he became impotent. Again there's also an emotional and psychological component. It's an obsession that's hard to let go of even when you can't perform. So you feel a bit stuck. Knowing there is such an easy solution as kgirls is both a blessing and a curse. Only a good hard look at what you want out of life can help you figure out your priorities and how to make a coherent life plan.

I actually plan to quit at some point, but it is hard and I won't know when the time is right until it comes. I've taken long breaks before but you have to keep yourself busy with something else to be able to stay off it.

[BlackBeltKen]

I suggest you look at a Sugar Daddy site, it's not like real world dating but it's a step better, it's like real world dating, you pay but it's not like an escort where she has appointments scheduled after you or in going to an MP and the sand glass timer is going.

[TridentGum]

The last time I civvie dated was about 5-6 years ago and I've been mongering since then. I've had some really hot fun with K providers like Bobo, Asuka, and Yoona, exploring BBFS and BB greek to great satisfaction. Recently, I've taken up civvie dating again landed on a chick that fits the bill nicely with me in the personality department. My complaints are the looks and the sex. She is probably a 4-6 in looks, could lose a bit of weight, and shorter than average. The sex is just blah. Initially, she was just a dead fish, but I guess she got the message and started putting some effort in and even started (a toothy) BBBJ and experimenting with some positions. Of the all times we fucked, I couldn't cum from any of them, even after saving up 2-3 days of baby batter. Thankfully, she can get off pretty easily, so she is satisfied on her end, but I'm definitely not.

I'm wondering if mongering has raised my standards to a unreasonable level. Thinking about ending it based on the sex and looks, but it feels like I'm being an ass. Should I see beyond her looks and sex or should I aim higher?

FWIW, I stopped mongering and got an all clear on the STD tests when we started dating. I still wear a rubber when we fuck, since she isn't on BC. So I'm not sure if I just gotten used to creaming pussy raw. I still lurk around here and HX, so I see the constant new talent that I can fuck like no tomorrow, CIP, and leave for the next hottie. That's my dilemma.

After creaming in 20 somethings who are a 1/3 of my age that I can walk away from and do my own thing after, hard to switch to a woman in her 50's or 60's with expectations of me.

I already have female friends close to my age that I talk to and can relate to on a conversation level.

[KeilecPod]

That's sounds funny, to be honest, but it can't be real.

[Anontt6]

Incidentally, may I ask where you met her? Like online, app, etc?

We met online.

[SlyshyGuy]

The last time I civvie dated was about 5-6 years ago and I've been mongering since then. I've had some really hot fun with K providers like Bobo, Asuka, and Yoona, exploring BBFS and BB greek to great satisfaction. Recently, I've taken up civvie dating again landed on a chick that fits the bill nicely with me in the personality department. My complaints are the looks and the sex. She is probably a 4-6 in looks, could lose a bit of weight, and shorter than average. The sex is just blah. Initially, she was just a dead fish, but I guess she got the message and started putting some effort in and even started (a toothy) BBBJ and experimenting with some positions. Of the all times we fucked, I couldn't cum from any of them, even after saving up 2-3 days of baby batter. Thankfully, she can get off pretty easily, so she is satisfied on her end, but I'm definitely not.

I'm wondering if mongering has raised my standards to a unreasonable level. Thinking about ending it based on the sex and looks, but it feels like I'm being an ass. Should I see beyond her looks and sex or should I aim higher?

FWIW, I stopped mongering and got an all clear on the STD tests when we started dating. I still wear a rubber when we fuck, since she isn't on BC. So I'm not sure if I just gotten used to creaming pussy raw. I still lurk around here and HX, so I see the constant new talent that I can fuck like no tomorrow, CIP, and leave for the next hottie. That's my dilemma.

Sounds like you are into her personality but there's no sexual chemistry. In that case why not stop dating her and just remain friends instead? That or keep seeing her and monger on the side but that seems to be more effort than it's worth down the line. Incidentally, may I ask where you met her? Like online, app, etc?

[Anontt6]

The last time I civvie dated was about 5-6 years ago and I've been mongering since then. I've had some really hot fun with K providers like Bobo, Asuka, and Yoona, exploring BBFS and BB greek to great satisfaction. Recently, I've taken up civvie dating again landed on a chick that fits the bill nicely with me in the personality department. My complaints are the looks and the sex. She is probably a 4-6 in looks, could lose a bit of weight, and shorter than average. The sex is just blah. Initially, she was just a dead fish, but I guess she got the message and started putting some effort in and even started (a toothy) BBBJ and experimenting with some positions. Of the all times we fucked, I couldn't cum from any of them, even after saving up 2-3 days of baby batter. Thankfully, she can get off pretty easily, so she is satisfied on her end, but I'm definitely not.

I'm wondering if mongering has raised my standards to a unreasonable level. Thinking about ending it based on the sex and looks, but it feels like I'm being an ass. Should I see beyond her looks and sex or should I aim higher?

FWIW, I stopped mongering and got an all clear on the STD tests when we started dating. I still wear a rubber when we fuck, since she isn't on BC. So I'm not sure if I just gotten used to creaming pussy raw. I still lurk around here and HX, so I see the constant new talent that I can fuck like no tomorrow, CIP, and leave for the next hottie. That's my dilemma.