Seeking Arrangement

[EricTheReddit]

My approach to contacting women on SA has generally been to avoid anyone that indicates "Moderate" or higher lifestyle expectation. I've occasionally had conversations with women with those expectations when they contact me first, but nothing has ever come of it. I have often wondered if I'm limiting things too much by taking those profile labels too seriously. Perhaps these are women who would accept a reasonable donation, but have put these expectations on their profile hoping to get lucky. Has anyone had any luck with the higher lifestyle expectations. Bringing them in at a reasonable ppm rate?

I didn't limit my search at all around that, I've got another fwb situation lined up in addition to my first one. Both had 5 k+ in their profiles. My cost is a bottle of wine or lunch or something and then hours of fun.

I haven't done ppm and don't have any reason to at the moment.

Someone asked about explaining absences, I'm divorced now but I would just say you're at work, you're at a buddies house, join a gym, etc.

[GreatPumpkin]

My approach to contacting women on SA has generally been to avoid anyone that indicates "Moderate" or higher lifestyle expectation. I've occasionally had conversations with women with those expectations when they contact me first, but nothing has ever come of it. I have often wondered if I'm limiting things too much by taking those profile labels too seriously. Perhaps these are women who would accept a reasonable donation, but have put these expectations on their profile hoping to get lucky. Has anyone had any luck with the higher lifestyle expectations. Bringing them in at a reasonable ppm rate?

I don't pay much attention to lifestyle expectation. There are some actually looking for 10 k a month, but I've found that to be pretty rare. And you'll know how serious they are pretty quick so it might be worth a few messages, especially if you are attracted to them. For 80 a month, you may as well message any women that catches your eye. The only exception for me is the "no physical" or "cyber only" accounts. I skip those altogether.

[FCooper]

My approach to contacting women on SA has generally been to avoid anyone that indicates "Moderate" or higher lifestyle expectation. I've occasionally had conversations with women with those expectations when they contact me first, but nothing has ever come of it. I have often wondered if I'm limiting things too much by taking those profile labels too seriously. Perhaps these are women who would accept a reasonable donation, but have put these expectations on their profile hoping to get lucky. Has anyone had any luck with the higher lifestyle expectations. Bringing them in at a reasonable ppm rate?

[JoeLefty]

You have to be a premium member to send messages or read messages from girls, and that's $80 for 30 days. The shitty thing is you can't even read old messages you've received once the 30 days are up. So if a girl sends you her number in a message, make you record it somewhere else.

Try Whats Your Price. I've had good luck there. You can buy a shit ton of credits for about 150. Once yoi agree to a date price with a girl, the cost to unlock the messages is 20% of the date price. So a 100 date would be 20 credits. There is not a huge amount of traffic on the site, so you've got to be patient and check in regularly. I also use it for out of town dates and that has worked well. I tell them up front. It's pay for play. Most are down for it and at a reasonable rate.

[King Python]

You have to be a premium member to send messages or read messages from girls, and that's $80 for 30 days. The shitty thing is you can't even read old messages you've received once the 30 days are up. So if a girl sends you her number in a message, make you record it somewhere else.

I second that. I've had limited success on SA and use it along with all the other venues. Once you click with a girl on SA, get a number, or pay another 80 per month to keep talking via the SA message system.

Also, be honest in your profile. These girls know what the game is, just be honest and not a creeper and you will get to bang a hotter class chick than you would on BP or CL.

[Nnapmas]

This is the response I was looking for, this and the one from Checkers123; and apologies for my inexact phrasing of my question. Yes, I was more interested in hearing how the married guys explain their whereabouts to their wives; not so much how they explain their marital status to young women on SA. I kind of figured SA girls don't really care whether we are married or single. I was expecting the time investment in a girl from SA would be much greater and also less convenient than with a typical SP. My former ATF, for example, knew all about my situation and worked with me to stay unnoticed; but she was also near enough that I could visit her on my way home from work, or see her early on weekends. I am not so hopeful that the college girls on SA would be so conveniently located or accommodating, so I welcome stories from members that enlighten me.

One aspect confused me -- one poster says there is an $80 per month membership fee, and another said it is all free -- so which is true?

You have to be a premium member to send messages or read messages from girls, and that's $80 for 30 days. The shitty thing is you can't even read old messages you've received once the 30 days are up. So if a girl sends you her number in a message, make you record it somewhere else.

[FCooper]

One aspect confused me -- one poster says there is an $80 per month membership fee, and another said it is all free -- so which is true?

The $80 is for premium membership. Standard (free) membership only allows you 10 messages and then only if you have a public photo. Further, SA says they monitor those messages to make sure you don't communicate contact info. Also, I don't think you can read incoming messages. I get the premium membership only when I need to replenish my rotation. You should only have to get the premium membership for one month unless you want to constantly see new people.

[Acoustic53]

I list my status as married, and even sometimes ask the girl if she's ok chatting with a married guy. Some don't realize it at first. I don't use SA as a replacement for BP, I like to build a little relationship with the girls. That's worked out well I'd say, since out of 4 girls I've been with from the site, 3 I did not pay a dime. I say I don't get anything at home and need more, all of which is true, and in most cases the girls feel bad for me and like to help.

It all depends what you're going into it looking for. You can find the girl that will fuck for $100 or spend a little time and got a hot 19 year old maybe for free or worst case for a few hundred you can see her a few times a month.

In terms of finding time, that's where being honest helps. Since I'm married, I say I can only meet during lunch. If they're still talking to you, you know they're already okay with the married thing anyway.

It's amazing how horny these girls are, and submissive. I might have posted this before, but one girl said she wanted to get better at giving head. So she gave it to me and I gave her pointers. All it cost was a room at a shitty motel.

This is the response I was looking for, this and the one from Checkers123; and apologies for my inexact phrasing of my question. Yes, I was more interested in hearing how the married guys explain their whereabouts to their wives; not so much how they explain their marital status to young women on SA. I kind of figured SA girls don't really care whether we are married or single. I was expecting the time investment in a girl from SA would be much greater and also less convenient than with a typical SP. My former ATF, for example, knew all about my situation and worked with me to stay unnoticed; but she was also near enough that I could visit her on my way home from work, or see her early on weekends. I am not so hopeful that the college girls on SA would be so conveniently located or accommodating, so I welcome stories from members that enlighten me.

One aspect confused me -- one poster says there is an $80 per month membership fee, and another said it is all free -- so which is true?

[SingDong99]

My case is a little different, we have been swingers for a few years and now have an open relationship. So, I can do what I want when I want. My wife doesn't like me building relationships with girls though, just hook up and move along. Girls get clingy. Anyway, I'm always honest with them and it's a good conversation started since it's not a "normal" behavior or arrangement that people come across too often.

I found a couple good ones on SA but never met up with either of them yet. Both were pay per play, slightly more expensive than BP chicks but also about 10 x more normal and not on drugs.

[Nnapmas]

I am wondering whether most of you members who are SA advocates are single or have an SO. Recognizing that sucs using SA is more about taking the time to cultivate relationships and going on actual dates, rather than angling for the quickest wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am, I would like to hear from those members who are already in a relationship -- how do you manage and explain the time spent away from your SO?

I list my status as married, and even sometimes ask the girl if she's ok chatting with a married guy. Some don't realize it at first. I don't use SA as a replacement for BP, I like to build a little relationship with the girls. That's worked out well I'd say, since out of 4 girls I've been with from the site, 3 I did not pay a dime. I say I don't get anything at home and need more, all of which is true, and in most cases the girls feel bad for me and like to help.

It all depends what you're going into it looking for. You can find the girl that will fuck for $100 or spend a little time and got a hot 19 year old maybe for free or worst case for a few hundred you can see her a few times a month.

In terms of finding time, that's where being honest helps. Since I'm married, I say I can only meet during lunch. If they're still talking to you, you know they're already okay with the married thing anyway.

It's amazing how horny these girls are, and submissive. I might have posted this before, but one girl said she wanted to get better at giving head. So she gave it to me and I gave her pointers. All it cost was a room at a shitty motel.

[Curtess]

I have arranged a few decent females from mocospace com mostly a black homosexual site now, but there are plenty of serious young black females that are single, available and looking for some sort of relationship. Some will just chat, or go out for dinner, or hang out to drink / smoke. Some would be very happy to have a good friend with benefits. Some would meet a definition of a car girl using P2 P in conversation and possibly after establishing trust will goto a paid dinner, concert or sleepover. Some are difficult females either not actively dating, men haters, or jaded. Many are not 100% female on moco but typically identify with ts in their name. There are some cut and dry, right or wrong views, but most blur the line regarding what P2 P means. A young urban female can establish status with family or friends by using survivor style maneuvers to improve who they date and who they can call in favors from. I've seen this in mail order bride sites, but the ladies are just miles away.

[Checkers123]

It's great already meet up with two young clean not drugged out sexy girls.

How much and how much time did you spend with them?

[Checkers123]

That's very common. Some ask right up front, "Are we going to have fun after the drinks". Most don't want to go straight to the hotel for the first meeting because they view themselves as good girls just making a few extra bucks.

So true. In their minds its not hooking.

[Checkers123]

I'm honest about my marital status and it doesn't appear to limit the field too much. I agree that a coffee or lunch date is the most that is needed for them to feel "safe. " Many go straight to hotel.

Nice first post FCooper, I hope you share more. .

[Checkers123]

The first girl meet from the meet me at a bar by my house and had one drink and she said let's go do this.

Was it the 29th and rent was due on the 30th LOL.