Seeking Arrangement and Other Dating Site Reviews

[LouisHernandez]

So I signed up for secret benefits. I see they have a few model based on credits, where you pay to unlock the ability to talk with the women.

I've already joined seeking a while ago.

So my question is does anyone actually use secret benefits? I am very skeptical because within 3 days of signing up, I have 3 messages in my inbox from decent looking ladies looking to connect. All from within 30 miles of the location I used in my profile. I am looking to see if this is the general experience of others, or if it is part of the websites strategy to get people to pay the $59.99 for the least expensive credit package.

It's a total scam site now. Any real girls on there will be on SA anyway.

[LouisHernandez]

I haven't been an SA member for maybe 10 months, but was on for over two years prior to that and can think of two girls who didn't have full body photos, but weren't even close to being fat, let alone very fat. The first there was no mutual interest so we never met. The second, had a number of face shots only. I had dinner with her three times, but she was just too scared to pull the trigger. I really would have loved to hook up with her. Texted her a few times after that but she stopped responding. I very well possibly had more, but that standard wasn't anything I was concerned about, so I'm not sure. Now as far as #1 Rule, I would say it would have to be about money, specifically "Never prepay for anything, ever- Cashapp, Venmo, PayPal. That would be my opinion based on my meager experience, as opposed to yours.

Be careful out there.

Blue.

I think your Rule 1 and my Rule 1 can be combined.

[JackTaggart]

The tri-state sugar scene is more or less dead unless you're in NYC and want to pay big prices. The golden years from 2012-2017 are more or less overwith.

The young girls today are on cam sites and social media apps making tons of $$ and have no reason to meet up in person. This really, really sucks.

So just a different experience for me. I've met a few girls that I would put in top 10 and I've fucked probably 250+( 245 not on seeking, but I'm just saying in terms of comparison that I am not a novice) in the last 11 years. However, perhaps it's because of what I am after and my situation might be different. That's why I am posting because I'm curious. I'm single, under 40, average at best looking, probably 35 pounds overweight, and have no problems going out in public doing real date stuff. I do not appear to be wealthy and really am not due to starting my business. I have traveled a lot in Europe, USa, and South America and have pretty good life experience. I drive a 10 year old dirty car and dress sorta ok. I also legit am looking for intelligent conversation and hanging out. Otherwise it's just not worth my time since I can either jerk off, go to lifestyle events for free or essentialy free, or travel outside the US for more favorable condtions due to my work. For me the goal of seeking in the US is get the benefits of a girlfriend without the commitment or having to constantly stay in contact. I need to have it be ok that I disapear for 2 months and fuck other woman.

So I've found a few in CT this year that meet my critera. One I ppm for 400 for 3 to 4 hours / whatever. One I don't pay other than just paying for normal boyfriend stuff. And hotel rooms due to my living situation. And if things continue to go well I'll pay for her to travel with me. But no shopping trips, no allowance, no extras. Well, other than bdsm gear and lingerie. She wants to go to cultural things and I have the interest and knowledge to make it happen. Doing a weekend day trip is no problem for me.

They are 23 and 24, college degree, petite but with a butt, super hot (for me, but both conventually attractive) and insanely smart. One has done sex work for years casually on and off and the other does not at all. Money was not discussed with either up front and obviously the 2nd it's never come up. I approched it as a first date for both and didn't even try to get sexual with either the first time.

So yeah, I'm curious to compare situations and approaches because my happyness with seeking in CT is amazing.

And yes, I've had some time wasters and others where my approach does not work. So it's not like I make it happen everytime.

[Rhodey]

Any recommendations for sa in the new haven through Stamford area. I've been talking to a couple but haven't pulled the trigger.

[LolBoat]

The tri-state sugar scene is more or less dead unless you're in NYC and want to pay big prices. The golden years from 2012-2017 are more or less overwith.

The young girls today are on cam sites and social media apps making tons of $$ and have no reason to meet up in person. This really, really sucks.

[Steve 99]

I never got to hear her expectations because she wanted to discuss ppm on SA chat so I left it at that to avoid getting banned.

Smart move. If the girl is not going to go to text she is getting too many offers. Not worth it. Never discuss money on the site. I have had girls say just tell me here. Tell me here. NO.

[Big Mac Daddy]

A word to the wise concerning the WYP site.

I've been on that site, off and on for 5 years with no prior issues, but a few weeks ago I edited a typo on my profile. After saving it, my account was immediately suspended with no reason given.

I wrote to them and got a reply days later that they noticed 'suspicious activity'. I replied that 'editing my profile is NOT suspicious. What's the problem?

To get back in, I'm supposed to supply front & back pics of my DL, with nothing blocked.

My last message to them was, 'You'll get my DL when you freeze over in hell'. DONE & NEXT!

BMD.

[SlackerInMsn]

Yea I think that's what she usually does, but we talked about 350. So I might.

I never got to hear her expectations because she wanted to discuss ppm on SA chat so I left it at that to avoid getting banned.

[Rhodey]

Based on the pics alone, I can bet she wants nothing less than 5.

It's just my first time using SA, so I don't know how legit it is.

[Rhodey]

Based on the pics alone, I can bet she wants nothing less than 5.

Yea I think that's what she usually does, but we talked about 350. So I might.

[toddywaddy]

Based on the pics alone, I can bet she wants nothing less than 5.

400.

400.

[DaReal86]

https://members.seeking.com/member/e...3-f3e66e18b181

Anyone have experience with this baby?

Based on the pics alone, I can bet she wants nothing less than 5.

[TopGun9]

Another cashapp scammers. Gas money to get to you, hungry and need food to prove you real daddy. LMFAO.

Don't be an IDIOT for fall for these scammers.

https://members.seeking.com/member/a...e-55a0989a87b1

[Rhodey]

https://members.seeking.com/member/e...3-f3e66e18b181

Anyone have experience with this baby?

[CasinoGuy66]

I have been using SB for a while and have scored more on there than on seeking. It is a bit harder to use since you are limited on messages. But a couple beginner tips:

1. Message who you want to message. Don't go using your credits to read a message from non verified member either. Which brings me to
2. Only try to message verified members. They will usually have video verification on their profile page. Try sticking to these profiles at first. Although I've met girls that haven't been verified, I still stick to this rule somewhat.
2A. Actually read through a profile of a girl that interests you. Look for keywords such as mutual beneficial friendship, FWB Daddy issues etc
3. Be smart with your credits, this is somewhat related to number 2 but don't go using your credits to request private pics or unlocking picture messaging. It's simply not worth it because you could be messaging more girls to increase your odds.
4.Last but not least. Be patient. I know a member that signed up for SB and blew all his credits in one day messaging a whole bunch of profiles, some of which were probably fake. There have been some girls that I chat up with and am able to hook up within the same week.

All in all actually prefer secretbenefits over seeking. Simply due to the fact that the girls on there know what you want and won't waste your time.

This is valuable insight much appreciated!