Seeking Arrangement and Other Dating Site Reviews

**DarkClouds** · 07-12-21 21:04

Idk bro. I've been hearing these complaints all through the years that I've been on there and have enjoyed 100+ successes. I was going like gangbusters when I stopped due to the pandemic in Mar. 2020 and I haven't signed back up yet. Huge investment of time though, in order to keep the investment of money low and your success rate high.

Originally Posted by DadBod78 [View Original Post]

Is it just my luck or have you all noticed a decline in the selection of girls on SA? I've used the site on and off for years. I always pay the month, make some contacts, then cancel. Sure, maybe only 1 out of every 20 or so conversations goes anywhere, but it wasn't difficult to find a somewhat normal girl on there. I use the site like a dating app. I try to connect with these girls, spend some time chatting. Get them to actually know and like me and vice versa. Makes it seem less transactional and I often get better prices as a result.

But after taking a long break and trying again, all I get is spammers from far away lands, straight up hookers, and girls who think Jeff Bezos $$$ is on there. Also, far too many women who would have to pay me! (victims of the ugly stick, sloppy fat, or just plain too old).

Has anyone used a traditional dating site discreetly with success? Like made a profile with no face pic and been clear you are essentially looking for a side girl?

Anyway, hope you all are having better luck than me.

**Uncountable** · 07-12-21 20:55

Originally Posted by MasterLink [View Original Post]

It's not just you, there certainly has been a decline on good young ladies on SA. I joined 3 years ago and it was a bit better then. I had hooked up with few young girls for very reasonable prices. I even managed to meet a couple of girls who were straight up grand slam home runs when it came to looks, service, and overall expenses.

The website always required a lot of patience and ability to know how to communicate to these girls. If you treat them with respect and don't be a creep you would be surprised how many of them stay in touch and are willing to please.

I've met a few girls from there who have shown me their accounts and there are like a 100 guys for every 1 girl. The ratio is utterly insane. These girls are getting a million messages and offers.

From time to time if you remain diligent and patient you can strike gold. It's a lot more rare now though.

Good Lord! I was led to believe that the ration was the opposite, in our favor. It now makes sense.

**Master Link** · 07-12-21 20:10

Originally Posted by DadBod78 [View Original Post]

Is it just my luck or have you all noticed a decline in the selection of girls on SA? I've used the site on and off for years. I always pay the month, make some contacts, then cancel. Sure, maybe only 1 out of every 20 or so conversations goes anywhere, but it wasn't difficult to find a somewhat normal girl on there. I use the site like a dating app. I try to connect with these girls, spend some time chatting. Get them to actually know and like me and vice versa. Makes it seem less transactional and I often get better prices as a result.

But after taking a long break and trying again, all I get is spammers from far away lands, straight up hookers, and girls who think Jeff Bezos $$$ is on there. Also, far too many women who would have to pay me! (victims of the ugly stick, sloppy fat, or just plain too old).

Has anyone used a traditional dating site discreetly with success? Like made a profile with no face pic and been clear you are essentially looking for a side girl?

Anyway, hope you all are having better luck than me.

It's not just you, there certainly has been a decline on good young ladies on SA. I joined 3 years ago and it was a bit better then. I had hooked up with few young girls for very reasonable prices. I even managed to meet a couple of girls who were straight up grand slam home runs when it came to looks, service, and overall expenses.

The website always required a lot of patience and ability to know how to communicate to these girls. If you treat them with respect and don't be a creep you would be surprised how many of them stay in touch and are willing to please.

I've met a few girls from there who have shown me their accounts and there are like a 100 guys for every 1 girl. The ratio is utterly insane. These girls are getting a million messages and offers.

From time to time if you remain diligent and patient you can strike gold. It's a lot more rare now though.

**Member #6544** · 07-12-21 11:50

Is it just my luck or have you all noticed a decline in the selection of girls on SA? I've used the site on and off for years. I always pay the month, make some contacts, then cancel. Sure, maybe only 1 out of every 20 or so conversations goes anywhere, but it wasn't difficult to find a somewhat normal girl on there. I use the site like a dating app. I try to connect with these girls, spend some time chatting. Get them to actually know and like me and vice versa. Makes it seem less transactional and I often get better prices as a result.

But after taking a long break and trying again, all I get is spammers from far away lands, straight up hookers, and girls who think Jeff Bezos $$$ is on there. Also, far too many women who would have to pay me! (victims of the ugly stick, sloppy fat, or just plain too old).

Has anyone used a traditional dating site discreetly with success? Like made a profile with no face pic and been clear you are essentially looking for a side girl?

Anyway, hope you all are having better luck than me.

**Big Mac Daddy** · 07-10-21 16:51

Originally Posted by ChrisHansen92 [View Original Post]

If they are premium members they can hide that they viewed you just like we can. It's a feature in settings. You can also set a filter to move any incoming message to kinda a spam section by distance from your listed location. Better yet just hide your profile and message girls you are interested in. Problem solved.

Female Premium members are not the problem.

**ChrisHansen92** · 07-10-21 12:49

If they are premium members they can hide that they viewed you just like we can. It's a feature in settings. You can also set a filter to move any incoming message to kinda a spam section by distance from your listed location. Better yet just hide your profile and message girls you are interested in. Problem solved.

Originally Posted by BigMacDaddy [View Original Post]

Correct! Further, look at your 'viewed me' area. They fave you without ever looking at your profile. Those are the scammers regardless of their location.

**Big Mac Daddy** · 07-10-21 11:28

Originally Posted by Hapcj7 [View Original Post]

How about when you go on the site you get all these new girls instantly favoriting you from a ll over the world!!

Correct! Further, look at your 'viewed me' area. They fave you without ever looking at your profile. Those are the scammers regardless of their location.

**Big Mac Daddy** · 07-10-21 11:25

Originally Posted by BigBoss203 [View Original Post]

Should they pay the same?

Wouldn't this lead to the girls requesting more money to the sugar daddy? Passing the cost to the consumer.

Would you be okay with this?

I wrote, " Charging women, whether full rate or a nominal fee".

As it is now, they pay nothing at all for full access. She's not going to tack on her fee to every date. It's a way to get quality dates for both men and women and could be marketed that way.

Further, if a girl does a hotel incall, say 100 $ For the room, it doesn't get tacked on to every date for that day. So, on SA, if she pays 100 $, it's spread out for the month. The big question is, would the spammers and scammers pay the fee to cheat legitimate people or go away.

**BigBoss203** · 07-10-21 10:52

Should they pay the same?

Wouldn't this lead to the girls requesting more money to the sugar daddy? Passing the cost to the consumer.

Would you be okay with this?

Originally Posted by BigMacDaddy [View Original Post]

Sites like SA and WYP should start charging women to join the site like men. Right now, they need to only set up an ID and they get the same access as men who pay.
Charging women, whether full rate or a nominal fee, would clear out most the dead weight, spammers, and scammers. The counter argument would that women wouldn't pay anything to join. Food for thought but something needs to change. The current way is like STG. Anything that's free starts attracting deadbeat scammers. Let the women join like men. No access to the message system until you pay something. At the very least it could reduce the number of deadbeats.

**Big Mac Daddy** · 07-10-21 07:13

Originally Posted by Hapcj7 [View Original Post]

How about when you go on the site you get all these new girls instantly favoriting you from a ll over the world!!

Sites like SA and WYP should start charging women to join the site like men. Right now, they need to only set up an ID and they get the same access as men who pay.
Charging women, whether full rate or a nominal fee, would clear out most the dead weight, spammers, and scammers. The counter argument would that women wouldn't pay anything to join. Food for thought but something needs to change. The current way is like STG. Anything that's free starts attracting deadbeat scammers. Let the women join like men. No access to the message system until you pay something. At the very least it could reduce the number of deadbeats.

**Hapcj7** · 07-09-21 22:18

Originally Posted by DaReal86 [View Original Post]

Also with the price increase there have also been a lot more fake profiles. This was due to SA removing captcha check aka the prove you're human test before logging in or the select the pictures with motorcycles etc, you guys get the point. Anyway the captcha is used to prevent bots from making fake profiles. Since they've removed it the fake profiles get to run wild and waste your time. Ever hear of the saying "vote with you wallet"? Until something changes or the site is reverted back to using captcha. I would highly recommend against signing up or renewing.

How about when you go on the site you get all these new girls instantly favoriting you from a ll over the world!!

**Big Mac Daddy** · 07-09-21 19:59

Originally Posted by DaReal86 [View Original Post]

Also with the price increase there have also been a lot more fake profiles. This was due to SA removing captcha check aka the prove you're human test before logging in or the select the pictures with motorcycles etc, you guys get the point. Anyway the captcha is used to prevent bots from making fake profiles. Since they've removed it the fake profiles get to run wild and waste your time. Ever hear of the saying "vote with you wallet"? Until something changes or the site is reverted back to using captcha. I would highly recommend against signing up or renewing.

I noticed that, too, and didn't renew despite the 25% off sale. Very few new members in my area and in a 50 mile range. Mostly fakers and girls I recognize from 2-4 years ago.

**DaReal86** · 07-09-21 19:29

Also with the price increase there have also been a lot more fake profiles. This was due to SA removing captcha check aka the prove you're human test before logging in or the select the pictures with motorcycles etc, you guys get the point. Anyway the captcha is used to prevent bots from making fake profiles. Since they've removed it the fake profiles get to run wild and waste your time. Ever hear of the saying "vote with you wallet"? Until something changes or the site is reverted back to using captcha. I would highly recommend against signing up or renewing.

**MrGopher** · 07-09-21 15:16

Seeking Arrangements latest Pushing the overpriced gift lift on the profiles.

**Big Mac Daddy** · 07-08-21 21:24

Originally Posted by DaReal86 [View Original Post]

Us "little" guys will have to be a little patient. Soon enough these girls will realize the grass isn't always greener on the other side. I've been declined for as much as 300 PPM which I think is personally high for most girls on there. I'm going to personally wait a bit to renew. Maybe around winter when all the big guys take their SB's on vacation.

That's a good strategy. Within the past week, SA had a 25% off sale so they're trying to increase their customer base but unlikely in the summer months. I did not renew either.

The one trick to try is to change the top right filter from 'recently active' to 'newest members. ' Lately, you'll be lucky if you see one new female member per day. So, in my 25 to 50 mile radius, there's no point in renewing. I definitely don't want to see all the old stuff already there. The new members generally increase in the Fall and Winter months since there's less to do and the women start getting bored. Well, at least, that's my theory.

BMD.