Korean Bar Reports

[Oldee]

Had good fun with the bros last night in town as we hit every KB and EG till closing. Ow, my head hurts bad, LOL. They must be dieing today, LOL. Every bar was slow but drinking with the Dragon king, Chibi, and Ninja bro always good fun. Chibi and and Ninja sat with thier hunnees making LVB when not with the rest of us and think they were happy. Looked for Getting Old but the bugga wasnt at Ellies which was slow and junk bartenders night time. You sure daytime bartebders good? Junk mama usually have junk staff. 74 not that slow but not enough girls. Casino and Butts slow and Chibi miss his chance with the young one because he no listen to me, LOL. Twilight same thing. International mostly older ones Sunday but Chibi had fun with a youngun. Checked out Camelot where Chibi is VIP for the wrong reasons and decided to run when the KBGs got excited to see Chibi, LOL. Splash slow and I asked if get young crazy LVB types who frequent there and was told yes. EG slow and I was drunk already by then and forget alot of what happenned. Make your reports bros. Got to say good fun with the 3 of them young studs who put up hanging with the old fun. Eh TT, Ninja like meet you because he tink you interesting.

Lot of good advice here on relationships bros. However I think my second "guess" in the tactics thread was the wrong word and an understatement. Still very good advice for LVBs in general by all you cool nice guys.

[BeerAddict]

This story WILL NOT have a happy ending. Personally, I can't tell if this story is just a load of crap or on the level. There are several inconsistencies and some things don't add up.

Totally agree with you bro. Gone are the KB reports and our primary topic of conversation is now like a never ending crappy K-Drama. One where valuable advice is being given everywhere but falling on DEAF ears! Wishing DT the best but damn this is getting old.

[Shipshape]

I've been following this little drama for a few weeks now and have come to same conclusion as everyone else. This story WILL NOT have a happy ending. Personally, I can't tell if this story is just a load of crap or on the level. There are several inconsistencies and some things don't add up. But in the crazy world of K-Bars, nothing surprises me.

Mr. WW has pretty much hit it. Plus DT posted his Saturday foray so maybe he is on the road to recovery. There have been tons of opinion and advice on this particular subject that always makes me wish I had read it several years ago and saved a lot of money and heartache.

To the younger guys "Read it and Believe it". DT, and whomever else of the younger crowd, look around at any KB or VB. See the older guys sitting at the bar? Pretty much guarantee they have been there and done that and now and then still go down that road. So you followed the girl and she got busted but you accepted her lame excuse, well, been there done that. So you don't want to reveal her name 'cause maybe "we'll get back together", well, been there done that. Or maybe she needs something from you, a ride, money, help, anything. Well, been there done that. Used to be the KBG's didn't give out their phone numbers because they didn't have cel phones so it was a bit of achievement to get their number (plus, it revealed a possibility that they were living without an SO). Today, getting a cel number is no big deal. KBG's shoot out mass "I miss you Honey's" all the time.

Been "on the wagon" for a bit and hope to stay there. Mr HM knows of my last downfall (Lily Hong) back in Moonflower days and I could tell a lot of stupid stories about myself, however, they've all been pretty much told by others on this forum over and over again. Hey Mr Young Guy, you're going to, or are, getting played. And what the heck are you doing in a KB anyways? Back in the days of $5 dolla drinkees it was actually about the same to go cruise nightclubs vs KBs and so why not since the girls all came to you. Today at $20 a pop, what are you young studs doing? Is it a self-image issue? Work on it. Just because when you walk into some KB and the KBGs make you feel "all that" is not reality. It just isn't and you're going to wind up just like me, sitting at the bar. Jeez!

Ss.

[WillieWillie]

She's playing you, just like her other customers.

I've been following this little drama for a few weeks now and have come to same conclusion as everyone else. This story WILL NOT have a happy ending. Personally, I can't tell if this story is just a load of crap or on the level. There are several inconsistencies and some things don't add up. But in the crazy world of K-Bars, nothing surprises me. If it is on the level, I hope that when you acknowledge that denial is not a river in Egypt, you don't move from the "pathetically desperate phase," which you are clearly in now, to the "I have to teach her a lesson phase. " That will not be good for you, her, or anyone.

I have two suggestions. First, go to the KBD&T thread and read the last two or three years of posts. You will find dozens of stories similar to your own. Join in some of these discussions, and even PM the authors to learn how they dealt with the VERY SAME problems you are facing now. Don't reinvent the wheel. Instead learn from them and their mistakes and discover how they learned to cope with the same feelings of anger, shame, embarrassment, self-pity, etc. I think you will find this very therapeutic.

Secondly, make an appointment with Dr. Oldee (and few of the other senior bros here like John Ross, H Mob, et al who have seen dozens of tragic relationships just like yours and won't sugar coat what you have in store for you if you continue this tack). He's a lot cheaper than a shrink (2 beers), and it will do you wonders to sit at the bar or in a booth and share stories with guys who know exactly what you're going through right now. Being right back there in the environment with guys who are on your side will be the first step in helping you regain control of your life. Because that is what this is all about control.

[John Ross]

It sounds like she is the one obsessed with me. I am saving all of her text, still now. Like I said the line is cut by me, I am not seeing her. But I am still getting "I love you honey" text from her.

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She's playing you, just like her other customers.

[Uki Eater]

Actions greek louder then words, oops! Sorry DT but Indusixtyning's post caught me off guard.

Actions SPEAKS louder then words, it doesn't matter what the hell she says to you, if she doesn't prove it to you by action, then half the battle is won, the girl needs to follow that up with action, since your in a good spot, it's best to cut her off NOW, while you still have some sorta hand left, if not, your the one that's still not over her yet, and probably still deeply in with love her, Gosh I know the heart can influence your thoughts cause you seem to not be able to make up your mind, you wait to long, she'll make it up for you!

Heh, it's like that song "Prove Your Love" from Taylor Dane back in the late 80's.

[Kolohe1]

You're a little confused. If she were a normal girl then maybe she would be the obsessed one. However, here in the real world she is actually just a savvy businesswoman. What's better than 1 guy willing to spend 10 k on you? Probably 10 guys with fat wallets. You're not the only one she sends those texts to. The fact that you're still talking about her and saving her texts while she's doing takeout with her other customers clearly shows who is more obsessed.

It's just business.

[H Mobius]

Most of these girls don't care about the guy. They only care about what we buy for them. She is probably still talking to him to keep I'm lured in and keep him buying things for her. It's truly sad but that's just how these girls are.

Correct. She will solve his problem for him once she sees he is out of cash and credit.

JR is correct about getting into trouble with the law. It is not uncommon for bargirls to have cop friends, nor is it unusual for the girl to embellish in her report just to fuck the guy that much harder.

Even aside from that, she will never respect him as she continues to succeed with the excuses when confronted.

[ChibiMonger]

It sounds like she is the one obsessed with me. I am saving all of her text, still now. Like I said the line is cut by me, I am not seeing her. But I am still getting "I love you honey" text from her.

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You're a little confused. If she were a normal girl then maybe she would be the obsessed one. However, here in the real world she is actually just a savvy businesswoman. What's better than 1 guy willing to spend 10 k on you? Probably 10 guys with fat wallets. You're not the only one she sends those texts to. The fact that you're still talking about her and saving her texts while she's doing takeout with her other customers clearly shows who is more obsessed.

[Ichigo808]

It sounds like she is the one obsessed with me. I am saving all of her text, still now. Like I said the line is cut by me, I am not seeing her. But I am still getting "I love you honey" text from her.

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Oh shit forgot to ask. Did you used to cook and clean for her and clean up after her and clean house too? Ooops. That was meHahahaha.

[MessiahComplex]

It sounds like she is the one obsessed with me. I am saving all of her text, still now. Like I said the line is cut by me, I am not seeing her. But I am still getting "I love you honey" text from her.

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Actions greek louder then words, oops! Sorry DT but Indusixtyning's post caught me off guard.

Actions SPEAKS louder then words, it doesn't matter what the hell she says to you, if she doesn't prove it to you by action, then half the battle is won, the girl needs to follow that up with action, since your in a good spot, it's best to cut her off NOW, while you still have some sorta hand left, if not, your the one that's still not over her yet, and probably still deeply in with love her, Gosh I know the heart can influence your thoughts cause you seem to not be able to make up your mind, you wait to long, she'll make it up for you!

[Ichigo808]

It sounds like she is the one obsessed with me. I am saving all of her text, still now. Like I said the line is cut by me, I am not seeing her. But I am still getting "I love you honey" text from her.

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DT25 sounds like you had sum fun times. WooHoo. Digest some if not all of the info / responses the mongerer's has provided. But your happiness let alone sanity should be your priority amongst everything else. Use your noggin not what's pumping and you shall be free. Hahaha. Don't answer any text's or any phone calls but if you do just reply "I'm not feeling so well at the moment". "OK onee take care yourself, call me when you feel ok". "Oh how come you don't text / call me yet honey / babyyah?" I said I not feeling ok. OK? Play the game they all play & sometimes you just gota kick the fucka to the curb. & maybe pick her up on a rainy day. Hiatus's always a good thing!

[DickTracy25]

OK guys, thank for all of you kind words. No GF, no ties. Loaded my wallet with 4 bills and went out on a fishing trip Saturday night. Since I have not have a lay since I dumped my ex GF, my balls were getting a little itch. I had two options to relief my poison, AMP or Bars. I chose bar cause I really needed some drinks and may be I could hook up a nice Marlin there.

First stop Butts around 6 PM, have not been there for a while, the place never have changed, same old early MILF crew, bought each of the 3 girls I know a neko there. Sat there shooting the shit with one of the regular I know for 30 minutes, catch up with all of her lies, I never had taken her seriously before, and I would never will. Downed a bill there with my food and drinks and 3 neko there.

I decided to take a ride to CS in kalihi to see if I have any luck. I know a BG there, no relationship with her just for some fun here and there, used to spend some time at her apartment after her shift.

Yes she was working and looking pretty hot for her MILF age. I was not hesitated to tell her what I was here for, she laughed and told me. " you only come to see me when you want to lay", I just laughed back. I spend 2 bills to keep her on my table. At midnight she decided to call it a night and said " honey, Let's go to relieve your itch" I said OK baby! End of the story!

[Idusixtyning]

It sounds like she is the one obsessed with me. I am saving all of her text, still now. Like I said the line is cut by me, I am not seeing her. But I am still getting "I love you honey" text from her.

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Why don't you text her back that if she loves you then will she let you do it greek with her? LOL.

[Kolohe1]

I always wanted to meet you in person if you going be out will try to be at ellies on the bar (Sunday) Daytime bartenders are Seiji and Miki. Good girls make good pupu out of their own pocket.

Dick Tracey in some older post related my story and I have been down the road you will be going down, I wouldn't trade places with you now for a 1 M dollars. The heart ache, the feelings of Betrayal, of being used and abused, and your feelings trampled on are just the beginning. I think you need to forgive yourself first of all and then start to heal emotionally and financially. Most of all financially. I would not find another yobo till some time has passed and you get over your stupidity. I did and it took awhile. It seems you not over this person yet, these girls are all on the plan, three month plan (tourist Visa) 1 year plan (earn some cash to live on with son or dau) or 2 year plan (open own bar) . It is not like before, you not the only sucker! And you won't be the last cause we locals are just too nice and www usually treat our women folk with respect so we really vulnerable and these girls take advantage of that fact!! Nothing I can say will help nothing any of the brothers can say will help till you realize you one pabo and take the loss. I know DT the heart tells you you can't give her up after all the good sex and the feelings you both have shared. As long as you have money the feelings will last once the kala is gone she going be gone. The mind has been telling you to cut it quit being the fool but the heart fucking you up big time it's up to you to not let it. This may not be the sympathy you are looking for but my friend I EMPATHIZE with you 100% because I have been there and done that the saying "Time heals all wounds" is nice but you still want to go out and pound the *****!! Even after all this time. So suck it up like a man that you are and chalk it up to a very expensive lesson in life my young friend.

Been there, done that. Very good advise.