Grand Rapids Pugilistic Society

**RaulJulia** · Today 12:58

Originally Posted by DoIt161 [View Original Post]

Hi all. I'm not sure if it is just me, or are more providers "requiring" some sort of verification? I've seen some requesting IDs and pictures, and some providers that have websites seem to ask you for everything but your social security number!

Being in my situation there is no way in hell I'm sending anything to a provider that could come back to haunt me or my family or my job. I can't get the vision of being blackmailed out of my head.

However, I get everyone's situation is different, and there are some that may not care. I also get that some providers could have had a bad experience and want to feel some sort of security via screening.

Just wondering, how many of you guys have agreed to a screening, and how much info (you don't need to give detailed examples) did you provide?

I don't disagree with the response to this post and the info provided by another monger below except for his use of the term "for the most part. " I think it really depends on the provider. Some just want some reassurances and for those, either giving them the name of someone you've seen or possibly even telling them what name you use on the forum here to post reviews is enough. They just want to see that you're not a complete jerk and / or that you're not LE and are really a monger involved in the hobby. If you've reviewed someone they know, they may reach out to that provider. Or, as the previous poster mentioned, they may specifically ask for the name of another provider or two you've seen so they can contact them. One issue I have is that I like variety, so I don't have a "regular" that I see often. However, the longer I'm in the hobby, the more repeat visits I've had, so that is starting to be a helpful trend. I think the suggestion about going to Panacea a few times and seeing the same provider to build up a bit of regularity is a good suggestion. But there are most definitely some providers who want specific things for verification. There are websites / services that will provide this, such as P411 and a few others, but there's cost involved and as I understand it the website has your real info even if the provider never sees it. When I was fairly new in the hobby and found the website Tryst, it seemed to me that a lot of the providers on there wanted a photo of your I'd with the address blocked out. There is no way in hell I'm providing that info. I even looked into getting a fake I'd just for hobby purposes, but the penalties for getting caught with one in Michigan are severe, so I decided against it. Basically here's my approach and this is just me. We each have our own comfort level. If a provider wants to know my username on here I'm ok telling her that. And if she wants to know who I've seen, I'll generally pass that info along since I've reviewed most of them on here anyway. But beyond that and maybe just answering a few questions I'm not going to say much else. There are two things that are an automatic pass for me--deposits and asking for personal info. This has forced me to pass on some providers I would have like to see, but my own peace of mind is important to me. And there are other providers out there who don't ask for those things. Just my two cents worth, but I think if more mongers would say no to deposits and no to providing personal info, then more providers would take the hint and stop asking for those things. --RJ.

**GRBikeMike** · Yesterday 15:47

Originally Posted by DoIt161 [View Original Post]

Hi all. I'm not sure if it is just me, or are more providers "requiring" some sort of verification? I've seen some requesting IDs and pictures, and some providers that have websites seem to ask you for everything but your social security number!

Being in my situation there is no way in hell I'm sending anything to a provider that could come back to haunt me or my family or my job. I can't get the vision of being blackmailed out of my head.

However, I get everyone's situation is different, and there are some that may not care. I also get that some providers could have had a bad experience and want to feel some sort of security via screening.

Just wondering, how many of you guys have agreed to a screening, and how much info (you don't need to give detailed examples) did you provide?

For the most part, all that it takes to verify is a reference from another known provider. For example, you've been seeing Betsie, and would like to check out Gertrude. Well, all you'd need to do is tell Gertrude that you are a good client of Betsie. She then texts the other gal, who says yep that's a good client, and you are in. Very often Betsie and Gertrude do not even know each other.

If you do not have that kind of connection, then you may need to go to some of the stuff you are mentioning. But often there may be less intrusive options.

I agree, sharing personal information is risky. But there are other options.

Oh, and here is an idea for guys who don't yet have a good relationship with a provider. Check out a gal at Panacea, invest in a few visits, be a decent human being. Then ask her to be a reference for you. It works.

**DoIt161** · Yesterday 13:55

Hi all. I'm not sure if it is just me, or are more providers "requiring" some sort of verification? I've seen some requesting IDs and pictures, and some providers that have websites seem to ask you for everything but your social security number!

Being in my situation there is no way in hell I'm sending anything to a provider that could come back to haunt me or my family or my job. I can't get the vision of being blackmailed out of my head.

However, I get everyone's situation is different, and there are some that may not care. I also get that some providers could have had a bad experience and want to feel some sort of security via screening.

Just wondering, how many of you guys have agreed to a screening, and how much info (you don't need to give detailed examples) did you provide?

**TypicalDude** · 03-28-24 23:18

Originally Posted by RaulJulia [View Original Post]

I don't know anyone who isn't into CBT who would actually use the term CBT (which stands for cock and ball torture, in case you're not up on your BDSM lingo) or who would just sort of get talked into being pegged someday.

When I'm 90 years old, I want to walk around saying this to random people. Verbatim.

**NoseJelly** · 03-25-24 15:47

Originally Posted by JMagnifico [View Original Post]

Has anyone heard from him since the surgery? I figured we would have had an update by now. I'm not a huge fan of the gatekeeping, but I'd like to know that he's doing ok if anyone has info. Hopefully everything went well.

Tried to PM him about things but his box if full, again!

**RaulJulia** · 03-25-24 14:10

Originally Posted by JMagnifico [View Original Post]

Has anyone heard from him since the surgery? I figured we would have had an update by now. I'm not a huge fan of the gatekeeping, but I'd like to know that he's doing ok if anyone has info. Hopefully everything went well.

Good question. I too have wondered how he's doing. Benz, if you see this, I hope all is well and that you'll be returning to your previous activities and regular posting soon. And, I know this may seem at the opposite end of the spectrum to some, but I miss G2 also. Very different guys, but each contributed a lot of useful info to this forum (and we always have the option to scroll past what we don't consider useful info). We're all different and I'm sure my posts aren't for everyone either. But both of those guys shared a lot on here, though in very different ways. And at times, I reached out to both of them and got helpful answers to my questions. Hopefully they can both return at some point and for Benz, I'm hopeful that means he's fully recovered. --RJ.

**JMagnifico** · 03-25-24 07:50

Has anyone heard from him since the surgery? I figured we would have had an update by now. I'm not a huge fan of the gatekeeping, but I'd like to know that he's doing ok if anyone has info. Hopefully everything went well.

**OhDirtyBastard** · 03-09-24 22:07

Originally Posted by MrCruzer [View Original Post]

Yes, noticed the same thing. Some of the gals from Panacea, Serenity, and "Erin" (Luxxe) are not above anonymously self posting on how good they are.

I feel like I can tell whenever a "user" posts a self-review. Or they ask some newbie and tell them what to say.

It's always a user with only a couple posts, never a senior with 100+ reports.

And the way they describe the experience is, like. Literally no men talk that way.

**DoIt161** · 03-09-24 18:34

Originally Posted by MrCruzer [View Original Post]

Yes, noticed the same thing. Some of the gals from Panacea, Serenity, and "Erin" (Luxxe) are not above anonymously self posting on how good they are.

That's so funny! And her self review is a day or two after Jay posted a 4 out of 10 review of her!

**Mr Cruzer** · 03-09-24 09:19

Originally Posted by Ssmile [View Original Post]

Funny how this post is from a new member (their only post) and Zoey instantly has this comment on her ad in stg.

Yes, noticed the same thing. Some of the gals from Panacea, Serenity, and "Erin" (Luxxe) are not above anonymously self posting on how good they are.

**Ssmile** · 03-08-24 22:01

Originally Posted by Ktk1091 [View Original Post]

Had a good experience with her, she made sure I was comfortable, and well taken care of slightly on the shy side but was really sweet and negotiable. Definitely worth going back.

Funny how this post is from a new member (their only post) and Zoey instantly has this comment on her ad in stg.

**WaltK** · 03-08-24 17:26

Originally Posted by DoIt161 [View Original Post]

Perhaps my somewhat mid level expectations on communication is too high? Maybe it is because I'm over 40? Maybe I use too many words in my communication? But communication with some providers is terrible. Below are some screenshots with Makayla.

Holy fucking shit, it's like I'm in the Twilight zone. You didn't see my question? Are you too busy? Don't care? I mean, there are so many of us that will throw money at some of these women but their failure to communicate must cost them so much money a week!

Is this just me or do others feel the same? As far as trying to connect with Makayla. I'll pass.

https://skipthegames.com/posts/grand...o/363740862108

I've never seen her but years of experience decoding hooker ads tells me that you might mistake the person behind the door for a beached whale.

**WillyJones** · 03-08-24 16:08

Originally Posted by DoIt161 [View Original Post]

Perhaps my somewhat mid level expectations on communication is too high? Maybe it is because I'm over 40? Maybe I use too many words in my communication? But communication with some providers is terrible. Below are some screenshots with Makayla.

Holy fucking shit, it's like I'm in the Twilight zone. You didn't see my question? Are you too busy? Don't care? I mean, there are so many of us that will throw money at some of these women but their failure to communicate must cost them so much money a week!

Is this just me or do others feel the same? As far as trying to connect with Makayla. I'll pass.

https://skipthegames.com/posts/grand...o/363740862108

Maybe that's part of her mistress act keeping her control over everything including the setup for your meeting. Maybe she wants you to beg like a little sissy *****. I've never been with her type but I am curious about them.

**DoIt161** · 03-08-24 14:49

Perhaps my somewhat mid level expectations on communication is too high? Maybe it is because I'm over 40? Maybe I use too many words in my communication? But communication with some providers is terrible. Below are some screenshots with Makayla.

Holy fucking shit, it's like I'm in the Twilight zone. You didn't see my question? Are you too busy? Don't care? I mean, there are so many of us that will throw money at some of these women but their failure to communicate must cost them so much money a week!

Is this just me or do others feel the same? As far as trying to connect with Makayla. I'll pass.

https://skipthegames.com/posts/grand...o/363740862108

**RickDee** · 02-24-24 07:29

Just wanted to say thanks for people's patience. I tried changing my email address on here in early January and the verification email wouldn't work. Tried a few things but nothing was going, meanwhile PMs were being blocked from coming in / going out.

As a side note, if you can't verify it blocks searches, posting, sending or receiving messages. So if you have an issue, it's quite difficult to get ahold of an admin for help, unless you can find the Contact email address.