2000-2004 Archived Reports

[Huggy Bear #2]

Hey Guys, good subject.

The other problem is, there are many more men that want to do "this" than women, so if you want to swing, have an affair, or have a f**k buddy, you have to lower your bar a little, in most cases. The only women really available on sites like AFF are BBW's, and even they get many requests every day, because of supply and demand.

Stoner hit the nail on the head, there's not a bunch of Greek Goddess' just waiting to take you to the planet LoveTron.

Once in a while, even the blind squirrel will find his nuts though.

HB2

[Gman1]

Stoner,

While I agree the end results from mongering and swinging are closely related. In my experiences, I've found two different mindsets are definitely at hand here.

In club and street mongering, in my case anyway, I take on a much more aggressive attitude, almost a "who gives a shit" attitude when dealing with the girlies.

That kind of play gets you nowhere in the swingers clubs, I've found. A polite, more subdued attitude is required here. As funny as it seems, in my experiences with the swing clubs, most men will not let you near their wives if you display type A aggressivness, too much jealousy going on. However, if you display a more laid back almost subserviant attitude, then they let you bang their wives 8 ways till Tuesday.

Go figure,

G

[Stoner]

I'm just reading this thread and laughing so hard, I almost choked.

From my experience, mongering and swinging is very closely related.

You see, both are the antithesis of the "meet in the bar and fall in love to have fun" bullshit. You're not planning on falling in love, you are participating in solid age-old hedonism. Nothing personal, and if you get personal, you're fuked in the head or on crack.

In my opinion, young and attractive means jack shit in swinging. (No offense CTBoobman). I've seen plenty of 2 and 3's walking around in the buff. I've seen men with johnsons so small I want to laugh at 'em. Many are fat, or nasty smelling, or into shit I don't even want to think of. Lots of swinger chicks are biker types...or wicca. Again, just my observation. Bottom line...few are into it because they are greek gods and goddesses. They just like to fuk, have community, and freedom.

Many of us are here on this board for the same 3 reasons.

There is interest in swinging, not alot, but enough to get some things going. I for one would love to see and hear more about it, even at other spots in other states. ESPECIALLY if you hear about a hot member of one of those clubs worth meeting. That would be worth the time, for sure.

My BIG problem is that my main fuk friend is no longer in the state! I've got to find a new one local who has a bod, mature, and some intelligence. (Finder's fee available!) No luck yet, though operators are standing by...I just don't want to head into one of the swinger spots with an open hat begging for loose hairy pussy. No.

If anything...most internet monger's i've met are relatively savvy and successful in one way or another. We wouldn't all make the cover of playboy however. lol

[CT Boobman]

Gman,

You're cracking me up with the bit about the "complete hobbyist in this new millenium." I like the way you think!

[Gman1]

CT boobman,

Yeah, I guess it pays not to be too scary looking if your attempting to tread in both distinct worlds. LOL

Definitely 2 completely different mindsets here.

As a complete hobbyist, I try to take from each type of activity, as much bootie as i can possibly lay my hands on.

Perhaps the new millenium is bringing in a new type of man who partakes in both the mongering and swinging world with equal pleasure.

What shall we call these half and half type of hobbyists?

"Mingers"? LOL, too funny

G

[CT Boobman]

Hey Gman,

I was thinking about your dismay regarding what little interest this thread has generated. In my mind, mongering and swinging are totally seperate, and involve a wholly seperate set of social skills. (Not to say that one can't be versed in both sets of skills)

Many of the people I've met in swingers circles tend to be family oriented, participating with a partner, while mongers tend to persue their hobby alone, or at least seperate from their regular partner. In fact, some swingers I've partied with have expressed a disdain for professionals.

I'm not condoning it, just making an observation.

Similarly, for the monger psyche, swinging might not be an attractive option. Many mongers opt to pay to play due to perceived handicaps concerning age, looks, or weight. These mongers might find it easier or more convenient to simply pay a lady rather than go through the time and expense of courting one.

As you know, swingers can be a fickle bunch, and for many mongers, it might just not be worth the trouble. Me, I'm addicted to pussy and boobs, no matter how I find it. And since I'm relatively young and in shape, I have enjoyed some success with swinging that other mongers might not have.

I'm not really going anywhere with this post, except to point out that there is definitely a different psyche between mongers and swingers. I've learned so much about the monger psyche from reading posts by Stoner and other masters of the hobby, and I just wanted to throw in my two cents.

As for me, I'll keep up the faith in any manner I can!

[Gman1]

CT boobman,

As Mr. Burns would say, Eeeexcellent. LOL

Definitely had some good times up there.

I travel on business myself, I'll get to work on seeing what other names on the list could possibly get reviewed.

The CT swingers thread lives!

G

[CT Boobman]

Thanks for the info Gman. Lo and behold I'm going to be in NH on business from time to time for awhile. I'll let you know how I make out.

Thanks!

[Gman1]

CT boobman,

It seems that I am now forced to personally review ALL of these single male swinger outlets in a last ditch effort to get this thread going, LOL

G-Man's review of club # 1.

" The Secret Chalet " located in West Deering, NH.

Single male membership is quite easy to attain here. All that is required is a ten dollar monthly membership fee to be paid through paypal to the secret chalet website. Once the fee has been accepted, you are guaranteed an invite to the next available party where single males are allowed to attend. Single males, on average, are allowed to attend about every other Saturday. So, in essence, about twice a month.
Door "fee" for single males is $ 50.

Directions to house will be sent upon request after paypal fee has been accepted by their website.

Parties hosted by Dan and Rachel, a pretty hip couple in their early 30's, at their spacious 3 level home located in the boonies of NH. They both do a good job in making everyone feel relaxed and comfortable at their parties, which start at 8:30 on saturday and run well into sunday morning. I have had success here on every occasion that i have been able to attend. I would recommend this "club" as a good starting point to get your feet wet in this type of activity do to the laid back atmosphere of this place.
Yikes, this post is getting long winded. If anyone is interested in a more elaborate review of the goings on here, please pm.

G

[CT Boobman]

Gman,

I think this thread has merit. In my experience, I've hooked up with a few private parties through invitation, but I've never attended a club. I've had alot of fun with this, and would definitely do it again. I just don't know as much about it. There is no "stroll" you can cruise to check it out. Hence all my experience is related to just those private parties that I mentioned.

[Gman1]

Stoner,

What a dud of a thread, LOL. I thought we would see a little more action on this subject.
In hopes of kick starting this dismal thread, here is a list of east coast clubs with websites that allow single men to attend their gatherings, whether it be through membership or just a once a month "special night" where they allow single men to attend.

1.- The Secret Chalet, W. Deering, NH, 603-464-4780
2.- New Encounters, Haverhill, MA,
3.- The Alliekat, Providence, RI, 401-277-9664
4.- Cherries Inn, Flemington, NJ, 908-782-8002
5.- Charldine Club, Schnactedy, NY, 518-895-2372
6.- Foursome, Manhatten, NY
7.- Special Friends, Binghamton, NY, 607-724-7823
8.- Couples Social Club, Long Island, NY, 515-942-3500
9.- The Farm Travel Club, York, PA, 717-225-5082
10. TJ's Lasting Impressions, Harrisburg, PA, 717-932-5082
11. Enchanted Evenings, Central?, PA, 717-225-9101
12. DJ's Island, Beaver Falls, PA, 412-519-8608
13. The Cottage, Gettysburg, PA, 717-334-0882
14. PA Swingers Club, Latrobe, PA, 724-640-5257
15. Swingers Palace, Pittsburg, PA, 412-751-4443

Lets see if this information brings about any responses.

G

[Stoner]

Uniquediversions used to allow "bi-friendly" fellas in on the side. Thats the spot I mentioned that was in the 'burbs. Thomaston. One could probably lie there way through...yet...Just bring a date...thats what I did. Took a gal from The Patio cafe in Wolcott. Decent time was had...but wouldn't do it again. Leisure time was much better.

I think the spot (Uniquediversions) is closed. I checked my info and it appears they are lights out, so to speak. Phone is off and website is 404. Maybe they moved again? Probably.

[Gman1]

Joe C,

I've been to a swingers club in NH that allows single men.

If interested, pm and I'll eloborate.

By the way, unfortunately as of now, there is no place in CT that allows single men. At least one that I know of.

G

[Joe_c]

Found the Problem..

The Correct Address is:

http://www.theprivateaffair.com

Any good clubs that allow singles in closer or in Connecticut...?

[Gman1]

Joe C and others,

By the way, if anyone is interested in learning more about " A Private Affair ". swingers club that allows single men, just pm me and i'll give you the 6 letter access code to the members area of their website.

G