Thread: My addiction.
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05-20-19 12:06 #80
Posts: 40Thank you!
Very random, but I really wanted to take time and say thank you to Head First and Bob *because Bob is amazing* and pretty much everyone who posts here. I my self have never been good at posting here. Or any where to be honest. But I read a lot. I've lurked here now for well over a decade. Reading about other people who deal with the same struggles I do helps bring some peace knowing I'm not alone in said struggles. It's been 9 days since I've been any where. Here I've been for the last hour debating trying to find bullshit reasons to talk my self in to going than right back out of going. I had pretty much made up my mind and said screw I'm going. On a fluke I clicked the general tab and noticed for the first time this My addiction section. Reading through this has drastically helped clear up my head. Thank you Thank you Thank you. For the last 3 years I've told my self I want to stop, but one reason or another I continue, if I had to guess, I think my longest period of time not seeing anyone would be around the 20 day mark. Around 3 weeks of nothing I start to become insanely restless. My thought process has slipped my mind, so I'll end quickly with saying again to everyone who posts on this site Thank you Thank you Thank you! Head First I wish you the very best of luck! Hoping this year I can make it to the triple digits on not paying for pussy!
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05-19-19 21:59 #79
Posts: 169Very eye opening and heart breaking. Thank you for sharing and I hope that you're doing much better.
Originally Posted by Member#5933 [View Original Post]
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11-09-18 16:07 #78
Posts: 545I confess
If you step out of your house and a cop asks you if you had sex with your wife, go ahead. Tell him anything. Tell him such stories that he'll get a hard on and return to his cruiser to jack off. But come out of an AMP or EMP? No, it is not illegal to have sex with a someone you do business with. But if the business is massage, it raises all sorts of red flags, and the cops will have no problem finding a judge to order the business shut down.
Just tell them you got a massage. Worked on those stressed out lower back muscles. Don't even mention a tip.
Originally Posted by Bob521 [View Original Post]
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11-08-18 01:38 #77
Posts: 1255Talking to LEO
I've had plain clothes guys ask me how was it, and of course I say nothing. I agree they probably can't make such a thing stick. No Miranda warning or anything. I would guess the plan is to scare the guy, threaten to get his name published in the Police Blotter- in essence outing him to the community. Do all this to get the guy to testify against the MT.
Originally Posted by MickSwagger [View Original Post]
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11-07-18 22:25 #76
Posts: 233Originally Posted by SamSpade [View Original Post]
You could slways say you were lying and embellishing the story for fun.
They can't prove it.
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11-07-18 11:52 #75
Posts: 665Originally Posted by Bob521 [View Original Post]
As a member of this hobby, I can usually quench the physical fun part by going out and getting off. But it's the intimacy that's not fulfilled and what keeps me searching, which will never happen because I'm looking in all the wrong places.
Makes perfect sense.
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10-30-18 18:35 #74
Posts: 1255Fulfillment
So I was at a similar level of activity until I met Mei. And then all of a sudden, I no longer felt the urge to go hunting. My self-analysis was that there was a void in my life, even though I'm married. American wife is a good person (I don't deserve her, and she doesn't deserve me) but she just doesn't do it for me. So with Mei I'm happy and fully satisfied. Nearly every day. So I don't feel the need to go hunting. I can't speak for anybody else on the forum, but at least in my case it was a scenario where I was missing intimacy and physical fun. That's what pushed me to do it.
Originally Posted by HeadFirst [View Original Post]
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10-30-18 11:43 #73
Posts: 665Some Day
Originally Posted by HeadFirst [View Original Post]
At the height (or is it the lowest) of this addiction I was going 5-7 X a week, every week, for years. I could so I did. Then some things changed but I also recognized that what I was doing was harmful (to me) so I decided to stop it. But I soon realized what a hold it had on me. Many visits with a psychiatrist and a psychologist didn't work and I came to the conclusion that I'd rather be spending this cash on pussy than doctors.
As with my other addictions I learned that tapering works best for me. So I've been doing that and after 2 years it's gotten me to the point of 2-4 visits / rewards a month. I've not gotten this monkey completely off my back but it seems to be working and I consider it progress.
Curbing my Appetite (For Destruction) has allowed me to consider getting into a healthy meaningful relationship again. But the other side of that coin has me fantasizing about buying an AMP. It should be a no-brainer but it's not (yet), so...
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05-13-17 22:48 #72
Posts: 545Caught by who?
Originally Posted by Iancognito [View Original Post]
I recall like 15 years ago I took a business trip to North Carolina. Looking for potential fun, I started to read the forums for that state. Read a post about a guy who came out of an AMP and was confronted by a cop. Cop asked him if he'd received sex. At first the guy said no. Cop persisted along the lines of You Can Tell Me! The guy does, gets himself and the girl who gave him a handy, busted. Idiot. Just say you went to get a massage, nothing else, and can I go now, and my neck and shoulders feel so much better.
Occasionally you will hear about stings, especially in the northern burbs where I live. The cops will put ads in Craigslist or Backpage, with ridiculous headings.
Hot Teen in Schaumburg wants to see you! 80 for one hour!
Absolutely too good to be true, right? It is. But guys fall for it. They go to the hotel and into the waiting arms of the cops, who will arrest they, take their car, post their picture on a John list along with name and place of residence. Again, the idiots.
Now if you're worried about getting caught by your significant other, you're on your own.
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05-13-17 13:26 #71
Posts: 3Fear
Yea I'm only considering AMP at this point. It just seems to me that walking into one of these, you have a target on your back from those LE patrolling the area. But I suppose its hard to prove anything unless they are physically in the room. Maybe a reverse type sting is the only way to get caught?
Originally Posted by Wenger [View Original Post]
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05-13-17 10:21 #70
Posts: 822Fear
Originally Posted by Iancognito [View Original Post]
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05-13-17 00:27 #69
Posts: 3The Danger aspect of getting cuaght
I'm new to this hobby and though I am excited, I'm scared about getting caught by LE. This may be apart of the fun of it, but I haven't seen much on this forum about what happens if you get caught / arrested.
It seems to me that LE cannot be stupid, and must realize this is going on in their towns. Are they just going after the business' rather than the customers? Has anybody gotten in trouble? What happened?
This is my fear! Am I over reacting as a new guy?
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03-25-17 16:35 #68
Posts: 430Fall Up
Originally Posted by HeadFirst [View Original Post]
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03-24-17 23:13 #67
Posts: 665Originally Posted by E6671 [View Original Post]
It's quite a slippery slope. My recovery seems to move in cycles. I'll be Ok for a time and think I've got this and next thing I know I'm pulling into a spa for some relief. Dec. Jan. And Feb seemed to be good but March not so good. 2 visits this week to 2 different places.
But I want to beat this so I'll keep trying.
Fall Down 7 Times, Get Up 8.
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01-19-17 10:59 #66
Posts: 411930 years is a long time. Best wishes and good luck to you.
Originally Posted by Dunkel [View Original Post]