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08-24-20 12:23 #625
Posts: 142Originally Posted by BusterHymen55 [View Original Post]
FairFight, modern day dating is extremely hard. I'm about the same age as you so I can relate to what you're saying. Try not to compare yourself to all of your coworkers. They may be married or have girlfriends, but does that mean they're truly happy? There may be trouble at home and unlike us, they have the complete freedom to do whatever we want whenever we want.
Also I would avoid dating apps and online dating to an extent. There are so many entitled bitches on there who are just on them for attention, Instagram followers, or to be amused by you as oppose to seriously dating or just hooking up.
Oh and the whole cute girl that works out and play video games. Dated a girl that just did that, but I swear a lot of the gaming girls tend to have mental issues. In my case, the girl I was dating had manic depression and it was terrible. You can definitely see the highs and lows. However, it does make me want to seek something more real (maybe you too), but it's fun being in her company so much that sex wasn't at the forefront because she had a lot to offer. No to mention sex will be awesome because you can go bare and not be afraid of catching anything.
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08-24-20 11:33 #624
Posts: 610Yes, it's normal
I was a virgin till I was 23, mainly because I was shy. Biggest problem most guys isn't their looks or lack of money. Unless they are on the extreme negative on looks. They are shy, and not use to talking to girls. Try online dating sites, it will help you learn what mistakes your making, also there is a lot less fear of rejection. Remember any girl on a online dating site is looking to be asked out.
Originally Posted by FairFight [View Original Post]
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08-24-20 11:03 #623
Posts: 545The FUQ is going on here?
I feel like I'm watching some bad episode of a Dr. Phil session!
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08-24-20 10:03 #622
Posts: 511Yes, it's normal
Originally Posted by FairFight [View Original Post]
I firmly believe in the time-old adage that "there's someone out there for everyone. " Corny, I know. It often requires patience, putting yourself out there, dealing with rejection (a lot of it), and thinking for yourself. As I mentioned in an earlier post, you're going to live a miserable existence if you're constantly worrying about another woman's well-being & always sacrificing your comfort for her's. And no, that's not being selfish--that's healthy, keeping yourself sane!
If you find yourself in the beginnings of a real relationship (outside this hobby), don't focus on the lack of intimacy at first. That sort of thing usually takes time. Accept that that'll come naturally or when both parties are ready. Though I'd say it's time to jump ship if you feel for a second that you're getting financially played or if there's nothing to be had after 6 months. And during the times you're not in a relationship and feeling the itch, see the occasional provider. In your instance, I'd recommend a professional over a SB (because the latter is an amateur and does require some partial chasing / work). However if you do wish to go the SB route, I recommend reading up on the Richmond forums. There's some fantastic info and stories to be had over there!
Temper your expectations, be realistic, have "fun" within the confines of your budget, and focus on what makes you happiest while being yourself. I get that training your mindset to be like this won't happen overnight. My point is that you'll never be satisfied--nor content in life--until you change your outlook. There's no reason to be celibate if you've got the itch and the funds. And there's no reason to hit the panic button just because you're the only single guy in his 30's within 100 miles of somewhere.
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08-24-20 00:58 #621
Posts: 365Do you think its normal?
It does seem like the whole being a loner thing isn't really common. I'm the only guy on my team of 16 staff that doesn't have a girlfriend or is unmarried. The weird thing is everyone's claimed a girls had interest in them but not me. A girl has never tried talking to me and usually when I make conversations with them. They have boyfriends or aren't interested beyond a conversation. Doesn't everyone get a shot at love? Wouldn't create some happiness knowing you have control over that? What about the lack of intimacy. I've met girls that have never gone more 2 weeks without sex and bits embarrassing to know I went from 18- 25 without sex.
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08-22-20 23:40 #620
Posts: 481Originally Posted by FairFight [View Original Post]
BQ22.
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08-22-20 12:55 #619
Posts: 67An old joke that may be a propos
There is an old joke about the man who asks a girl if she will sleep with him for a million dollars. Of course, she says yes. He then offers her two dollars and she slaps his face, saying, 'What do you think I am?' He answers, 'I know what you are. We are just haggling over the price.
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08-21-20 22:33 #618
Posts: 511Originally Posted by FairFight [View Original Post]
Personal story time: I've been in two serious relationships since graduating high school. And like you, I prefer my women to be at least a year younger than me. In both instances, those women technically pursued me. I didn't suddenly lose my introverted nature, alter my personality to be an alpha male, rake in the big bucks, win the lottery, buy a fancy car, or any of that nonsense. In fact, the only changes were to my eating habits (because one gf was a vegetarian), working out a little more often (easy when you enjoy it already), and starting out as close friends which eventually turned into something more after realizing the chemistry & attraction were present. I've also been in this hobby for 7-8 years. And while in a serious relationship, I never once stepped out on my gf (loyalty's important to me); however, I picked my hobbying ways back up after the most recent relationship ended.
Prior to January of this year, I'd visit a strip club once in a blue moon or saw a professional escort. Since 2020 began, I've had decent success with SBs on Seeking Arrangements. At NO TIME have I ever deluded myself into thinking that those girls fell in love with anything about me except my money. That's not something that should surprise anyone. It's kind of their job. You're just one of their many johns. You can't change these women who are often damaged in some form or another. So if it's love you're after, you're not going to find it in this hobby. No one here is Richard Gere or Hugh Hefner.
Not trying to go all "Dr. Phil" on you, but I hope you take the following advice to heart: don't stress about things outside your control. By worrying about the future, trying too hard, forcing a relationship to work, or spending every waking second trying to please a potential partner, you will have missed out on so much that life has to offer and will only make yourself miserable. Just be yourself, treat others with respect, don't let them play you for your checking / savings account, and pursue your interests & passions. The rest will fall into place in due time. Until then, be safe, keep your head on a swivel, and enjoy life to the fullest. Cheers!
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08-21-20 16:04 #617
Posts: 365My attraction for older girls isn't there.
Originally Posted by MoonBat11 [View Original Post]
How will it work out for me? When I'm still wanting a girl that's just as inexperienced as me but there none left. That's why it's such a burden and something I'm chasing now before I'll never find a girl in her early 20's that's also new to dating and willing to give her 100%.
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08-21-20 12:14 #616
Posts: 17Originally Posted by StichJones [View Original Post]
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08-21-20 12:12 #615
Posts: 17Originally Posted by FairFight [View Original Post]
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08-21-20 12:04 #614
Posts: 79Originally Posted by FairFight [View Original Post]
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08-21-20 11:58 #613
Posts: 1288Don’t confuse dating and mongering.
Originally Posted by FairFight [View Original Post]
Rule #2 - There aren't enough cute girls who work out and play video games for every man who wants one.
Rule #3 - Sitting in your apartment solves none of this. Though it might be the best thing to do until COVID is resolved.
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08-21-20 00:51 #612
Posts: 365And it makes me so frustrated
To see other dudes type that they aren't hot or successful and still get girls.
All I wanted in life was a cute girl that loves to work out and play video games. Yet another year will go by with only rejections and it just makes me want to avoid everyone and sit in my apartment day after day knowing I tried my best and even invested financially into therapy, dating coaching, even sugar baby.
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08-21-20 00:43 #611
Posts: 365I do get it
Originally Posted by Barraquda22 [View Original Post]
I've never even been close, and if I ask guys for help. They talk about the whole alpha shit and about how I need to stop taking shit from or doing anything for girls. Yet if I go that route, they just think I'm stupid and tell me to fuck off or ignore me. It's a difficult situation. I got taken advantage of because I wanted a relationship, to finally date a girl and I've always had to prove myself by giving more than I get. My dating life is fucked.