1. Prepare for the worst at home. Set up your own bank accounts, see a divorce attorney (for the record), sleep on the couch, separate if you can (assuming its irreconcilable of course), but at the very least have a place to stay if you get kicked out. Because, if wife finds out, it's scorched earth and you better have your shit together before, not after.
2. Get a burner. You already have digital footprints that will come out in the divorce. No since and giving any more evidence you're still whoring around. You should have one anyway if you're married and mongering but if this is eminent, you need to get off the wife's traceable grid.
3. If you have to shit where you sleep (home), that's one thing. But If you are going to shit where you sleep and eat (home and work), you are setting yourself up for some pain in the event you get caught. Potential loss of home and job. If you have a white collar job, better review employee handbook. Some emplorers frown on work place adultary or even dating depending on your respective positions.
4. And if all that is worth the risk, sounds like you're already there. If the coworker is texting you, sounds like she needs a shoulder to cry on. Do lunch a few times and confide in her about your shitty home life. Ask advise about how she dealt with her break up. If she thinks or knows you're vulnerable, she likely won't care as much about your cheating ways like she looks as her ex.
5. There is a high probability this will not work out well. I don't want to put a damper on your situation but. I can tell by the way you're talking, you are thinking with the little head a bit too much. I would really consider putting the coworker on standby until you can legally fuck her. Nearly every one I know that has gotten busted or been ass raped in their divorce sounds a lot like this story.
I know loveless and sexless marriages seem impossible to get out of but sometimes even the children fair better when both parents are happier apart. That's it, no more Dr Phil today I'm out.
Going to say the same thing about shitting where you eat until I reread the post. She doesn't work with him, she lives nearby where he works, so it makes it convenient to see her.
To add on to your excellent advice. If you really do want to leave, do it before you get caught cheating. If she catches you before she will come after you hard (hell have no fury like a woman scorned) and she will try to clean you out.
Ok so I'm sick and tired of the shit I have to deal with at home. Been doing the Councilling thing and I still come home and get screamed at for no reason. I'm only staying around now for my daughter. I'm tired it paying for side play so I'm looking at trying to hook up with a girl I know. She's around my age, divorced, her kids are grown, and she lives where I work, so I could hit it before, during, and after work as needed. She's drop dead gorgeous and I've been fantasizing about her for a while. I feel I could trust her to keep it quiet. If she would agree it would be perfect. I know she's been dating around so she's looking to fuck. I just don't know how she would take being approached from me being married when her husband was supposedly cheating on her. There was some drama there, but then again she hit me up on text a while back and was totally cool when I asked her to only do it during the day as my wife would flip if she saw it. Any suggestions?
With her. Tell her your situation and tell her what your intentions are with her. The worst she could say is no. As I said in another post, the one thing worse than a no, is not knowing.
Ok so I'm sick and tired of the shit I have to deal with at home. Been doing the Councilling thing and I still come home and get screamed at for no reason. I'm only staying around now for my daughter. I'm tired it paying for side play so I'm looking at trying to hook up with a girl I know. She's around my age, divorced, her kids are grown, and she lives where I work, so I could hit it before, during, and after work as needed. She's drop dead gorgeous and I've been fantasizing about her for a while. I feel I could trust her to keep it quiet. If she would agree it would be perfect. I know she's been dating around so she's looking to fuck. I just don't know how she would take being approached from me being married when her husband was supposedly cheating on her. There was some drama there, but then again she hit me up on text a while back and was totally cool when I asked her to only do it during the day as my wife would flip if she saw it. Any suggestions?
I would just ask her to lunch. Wait for her to hit on you. After a couple of lunches, take to dinner. Never mention your wife. She already knows. And you're off to nog heaven. Enjoy her.
Jade, started chatting off line. She seems legit but I was skeptical. Said she ask for $6 but I could tell that was very negotiable. I ask if she could host but she said that was tough but maybe future visits. I told her I couldn't host either. She was anxious to set up a meet so I assumed it was a scam. She then says "just drive to Charlotte and I'll fuck you in my car". I thought WTF, so I said send me a better pic and I'll see what I can do (attached). Knowing I wouldn't be meeting her, I politely told her it would be next week. So she's DTF but not me and definitely not at that price.
Don't seem like the same 2 people next time ask for pix holding up some fingers or pointing or something most fakes run from that.
Jade, started chatting off line. She seems legit but I was skeptical. Said she ask for $6 but I could tell that was very negotiable. I ask if she could host but she said that was tough but maybe future visits. I told her I couldn't host either. She was anxious to set up a meet so I assumed it was a scam. She then says "just drive to Charlotte and I'll fuck you in my car". I thought WTF, so I said send me a better pic and I'll see what I can do (attached). Knowing I wouldn't be meeting her, I politely told her it would be next week. So she's DTF but not me and definitely not at that price.
Ok so I'm sick and tired of the shit I have to deal with at home. Been doing the Councilling thing and I still come home and get screamed at for no reason. I'm only staying around now for my daughter. I'm tired it paying for side play so I'm looking at trying to hook up with a girl I know. She's around my age, divorced, her kids are grown, and she lives where I work, so I could hit it before, during, and after work as needed. She's drop dead gorgeous and I've been fantasizing about her for a while. I feel I could trust her to keep it quiet. If she would agree it would be perfect. I know she's been dating around so she's looking to fuck. I just don't know how she would take being approached from me being married when her husband was supposedly cheating on her. There was some drama there, but then again she hit me up on text a while back and was totally cool when I asked her to only do it during the day as my wife would flip if she saw it. Any suggestions?
1. Prepare for the worst at home. Set up your own bank accounts, see a divorce attorney (for the record), sleep on the couch, separate if you can (assuming its irreconcilable of course), but at the very least have a place to stay if you get kicked out. Because, if wife finds out, it's scorched earth and you better have your shit together before, not after.
2. Get a burner. You already have digital footprints that will come out in the divorce. No since and giving any more evidence you're still whoring around. You should have one anyway if you're married and mongering but if this is eminent, you need to get off the wife's traceable grid.
3. If you have to shit where you sleep (home), that's one thing. But If you are going to shit where you sleep and eat (home and work), you are setting yourself up for some pain in the event you get caught. Potential loss of home and job. If you have a white collar job, better review employee handbook. Some emplorers frown on work place adultary or even dating depending on your respective positions.
4. And if all that is worth the risk, sounds like you're already there. If the coworker is texting you, sounds like she needs a shoulder to cry on. Do lunch a few times and confide in her about your shitty home life. Ask advise about how she dealt with her break up. If she thinks or knows you're vulnerable, she likely won't care as much about your cheating ways like she looks as her ex.
5. There is a high probability this will not work out well. I don't want to put a damper on your situation but. I can tell by the way you're talking, you are thinking with the little head a bit too much. I would really consider putting the coworker on standby until you can legally fuck her. Nearly every one I know that has gotten busted or been ass raped in their divorce sounds a lot like this story.
I know loveless and sexless marriages seem impossible to get out of but sometimes even the children fair better when both parents are happier apart. That's it, no more Dr Phil today I'm out.
Ok so I'm sick and tired of the shit I have to deal with at home. Been doing the Councilling thing and I still come home and get screamed at for no reason. I'm only staying around now for my daughter. I'm tired it paying for side play so I'm looking at trying to hook up with a girl I know. She's around my age, divorced, her kids are grown, and she lives where I work, so I could hit it before, during, and after work as needed. She's drop dead gorgeous and I've been fantasizing about her for a while. I feel I could trust her to keep it quiet. If she would agree it would be perfect. I know she's been dating around so she's looking to fuck. I just don't know how she would take being approached from me being married when her husband was supposedly cheating on her. There was some drama there, but then again she hit me up on text a while back and was totally cool when I asked her to only do it during the day as my wife would flip if she saw it. Any suggestions?
Need advise, wanting ask a friend to be friend with benefits
Ok so I'm sick and tired of the shit I have to deal with at home. Been doing the Councilling thing and I still come home and get screamed at for no reason. I'm only staying around now for my daughter. I'm tired it paying for side play so I'm looking at trying to hook up with a girl I know. She's around my age, divorced, her kids are grown, and she lives where I work, so I could hit it before, during, and after work as needed. She's drop dead gorgeous and I've been fantasizing about her for a while. I feel I could trust her to keep it quiet. If she would agree it would be perfect. I know she's been dating around so she's looking to fuck. I just don't know how she would take being approached from me being married when her husband was supposedly cheating on her. There was some drama there, but then again she hit me up on text a while back and was totally cool when I asked her to only do it during the day as my wife would flip if she saw it. Any suggestions?
DTF, will drive in from Columbia. A little thicker than the pics on SA, but that should be a given with the age she says she is. No problem sending a naked verification pic which I always ask for.
I second this. You can get decent rooms for next to nothing. You have a room for 8 hours for half the price. The only caveat is, it doesn't work that well on the weekends and as the name implies, it's only valid during the day. It was probably started during Covid for people that couldn't go to the office and couldn't work at home either. It's a good alternative for those that need outcall.
Yes this is great. I have used it severalI have used it several times. Before this I would contact the hotels and ask for day or hourly rates. About one out of five would have them.
You've probably got the right idea not taking them to your crib right off the bat. And your potential lover might not want to go smash at a flea bag motel. Try.
-you can book a hotel for about 8 hrs & usually the rate is 50% to 25% less than the standard, overnight rate. Most of the hotels are good or great, no sketchy places & the hotels are in various areas, north, Southpark, Airport, Executive Park. And yes, you can use the bed, pool, gym, etc. While you're there.
I second this. You can get decent rooms for next to nothing. You have a room for 8 hours for half the price. The only caveat is, it doesn't work that well on the weekends and as the name implies, it's only valid during the day. It was probably started during Covid for people that couldn't go to the office and couldn't work at home either. It's a good alternative for those that need outcall.
"Please note that I expect an allowance and that by most people who have approached me on this site: it's too much. But I had an arrangement before that was 3 times what I want now. I ended it willingly. "
WTF would anyone pursue that level of GPS.
Thanks for pointing that out, on the app the profile section is showing empty.