Rants and Raves

[HobbyMan51]

A couple days ago I stopped by Cherry massage off Buford hwy. I drew Chloe who is probably upper 30's -mid 40's. I told her I wanted an hour and she took me to the room. When she comes back in as I'm laying on the table I politely ask her if she can use some of the hand sanitizer and I'll do the same. I like to know that we're both clean, especially if it's my first time with someone or some place. As we know not all massage places are the same, and that way they can get a hint for what I'm looking for too since I'm using some as well.

Well apparently this was the rudest thing in the world to ask and she got very offended and said she is always clean and runs a clean shop. (I guess she may be the owner?) I got the impression that it's not the first time she's been asked this, and I personally ask almost every time I get a massage.

I apologized and said not to worry about it. I should've just left as I felt the energy was wrong after that. The rest of the hour we made some little small talk but I really wasn't feeling it. I felt that was an unreasonable reaction to just being asked to use hand sanitizer especially since I used some too as I always do. There was some light teasing and that's about it. On the flip she tried to tease a bit but the vibe was sour still, I should've just left after her outburst tbh. When the hour was up I just dressed quickly and left her a $5 and told her I probably won't be back.

Has anyone ever had any issues like this? Is that bad etiquette to ask? First time someone ever responded like that and I get the feeling she's a very stern person no smile or anything when I walked through the door so will not be repeating.

KC.

If you are so worried that a germ might jump on you while you are on the massage table then maybe this hobby is not for you. Germophobes should not go to massage parlors. Bacteria is everywhere, you know. And what hint should the provider get from your request for hand sanitizer? On second thought, I don't want to know.

[MassageAwesome]

You think it's a little shilly in here.

Yea Wiz, us veterans know the buckhead spa scene. Especially when it comes to Latinas. Norcross apartment / spas are better in price.

[Wizard22]

This post is paid for by Spring spa.

You think it's a little shilly in here.

[MassageAwesome]

For those looking for Latinas, spring spa is great. House fee. 8 CFS depending on negotiation $. 5 - $$ will rush first half of massage but won't rush FS on flip.

This post is paid for by Spring spa.

[AcWorthDude]

QUOTE. The police won't help you.

https://patch.com/georgia/atlanta/wh...arrested-icymi

Don't rule out their help. Similar has happened before.

[Joesouncool]

Long story but I am being blackmailed by a formed provider. I broke several rules and see has found out a lot and is threatening to tell my wife. I am at a loss of what to do. Any help is needed.

Had an utr girl try this on me many years ago. I wasn't having any of this. He weakness was that she was utr to her family and always talked about her being afraid that her family would find out. She was petrified of that. She was harassing the shit out of me every day on phone calls. I finally just had enough. I got ahold of everyone in the family and her friends, every last one. It stopped most of the calls and her harassment of me. I would occasionally get harassment over the years after that. A friend of hers saw me at Lennox mall a few years later. I was afraid the harassment would start again, but it never did and that was the end of it.

The police won't help you.

What you need to do is figure out her weaknesses. She's mentioned them to you, I can guarantee it. Think back over what she was afraid of, and then apply pressure there.

[RowTied85]

Adultery is not a factor in divorce settlements. You could fuck your MIL and SIL in front of your wife and she wouldn't be entitled to a dime more.

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that's not true. Now, I will defer to any family law attorneys here but this does not fit with the statutory code or case law in Georgia.

In Georgia, adultery is defined by code as engaging in sexual intercourse with someone other than one's spouse, regardless of the gender of the other person involved. Adultery can serve as a complete bar to any claim for alimony if it is the reason for the separation and has prevented reconciliation. This was established in Owens v. Owens in 1981 and further supported in Anderson v. Anderson in 1976 and Vereen v. Vereen in 2008. In order to prove a lack of entitlement to alimony, a spouse must show by a preponderance of the evidence that the separation was caused by the other party's adultery or desertion.

In Georgia, marital property is divided fairly rather than equally in accordance with equitable distribution laws. As established in Goldstein v. Goldstein (1992) and Fuller v. Fuller (2005), the division does not necessarily result in a 50/50 split. The court may consider evidence of infidelity when determining the distribution of assets and may favor the innocent spouse, particularly if the guilty spouse used marital funds for their affair. When it comes to awarding permanent alimony, O. C. G. A. Section 19-6-5 (a)(8) allows for the consideration of "other relevant factors", but marital misconduct alone cannot be used to determine the amount of ongoing alimony payments.

[Noob2022]

Fair points. You can be legally in the right but unnecessarily escalate. My point is more to cooperate and provide license, registration, insurance, but not answer questions. You can be pleasant and not antagonize.

They'll try to trick you. "Do you know how fast you were going? Do you know why I pulled you over? The faster you cooperate, the faster you'll be on your way. " Keep asking if you are being detained in a calm, polite way.

Absolutely. Police can and will lie to you; it is potentially criminal for you to lie to them. "Respectfully, I'm going to exercise my right to not answer that question," is a great answer, most of the time. Though to "Do you know why I pulled you over?" it is always truthful to say "No, officer, I don't," - you may have a good guess as to why, but you can't know it for sure, make them tell you.

[WiseTraveler]

A minor quibble: This is technically correct, it is all you are legally required to do. However it is also a really good way to get your car window and possibly your arm broken. The only reason to not roll down all the way is if you are trying to avoid them seeing something or smelling something like marijuana or alcohol on your breath. This is a case where the need to be polite and friendly probably outweighs not doing any more than is absolutely necessary.

Also remember, car stops are the most dangerous things cops do. More injuries and fatalities occur during car stops than any other part of the job- anything you can do to put a cop at ease and make sure he knows you aren't going to try to harm him is going to go a long way in improving your outcomes.

Fair points. You can be legally in the right but unnecessarily escalate. My point is more to cooperate and provide license, registration, insurance, but not answer questions. You can be pleasant and not antagonize.

They'll try to trick you. "Do you know how fast you were going? Do you know why I pulled you over? The faster you cooperate, the faster you'll be on your way. " Keep asking if you are being detained in a calm, polite way.

[Noob2022]

If you're in a car, crack the window but don't open all of the way.

A minor quibble: This is technically correct, it is all you are legally required to do. However it is also a really good way to get your car window and possibly your arm broken. The only reason to not roll down all the way is if you are trying to avoid them seeing something or smelling something like marijuana or alcohol on your breath. This is a case where the need to be polite and friendly probably outweighs not doing any more than is absolutely necessary.

Also remember, car stops are the most dangerous things cops do. More injuries and fatalities occur during car stops than any other part of the job- anything you can do to put a cop at ease and make sure he knows you aren't going to try to harm him is going to go a long way in improving your outcomes.

[WiseTraveler]

So, here is the deal. Blackmail is illegal. If you have proof of these threats, you can take it to the police.

That does not mean you are held to anything you did with that provider, just don't admit to anything illegal. Just stick to the fact you are being blackmailed.

*Talk to an attorney ASAP. * They will guide you on how to engage the police (or FBI if blackmail involved) and how to communicate, it at all, with the provider going forward. They can also help you identify the provider's real name if you don't know, and a formal letter / warning usually stops this shit in its tracks but again, follow your attorney's advice.

Edit: And tell your attorney everything. Don't hold back. They can't help you if you don't give full disclosure.

Don't destroy / delete any 'evidence', however tempting. Never pay a blackmailer as they'll just keep asking for more.

If you're dumb enough to use your real name, #, social media, or to meet at your office / home, you've chosen to play it risky. Single guys mainly need to keep it all separate from work. I've seen Sr VPs escorted out by security as they booked hookers via their work phones / laptops. Never admit to anything to a provider. Doesn't matter if it's text, phone, pillow talk. If you feel the need to apologize, do so but dispute, "I'm sorry you feel that way / this didn't work out but that's not my recollection and I don't think we should communicate any more. Best of luck."

When communicating with providers/schedulers:
Prep all pics in advance if possible and use a remove EXIF data site (upload pic to site, it strips EXIF data). You'd be surprised how much info is in a pic.

Use a burner number or phone. The po-po will still likely be able to identify you unless you take extreme measures but you know what? They won't unless there's a major crime involved as they focus on lower hanging fruit. The police don't fucking care.

Dealing with law enforcement:
Don't talk beyond sharing your name and asking why you were pulled over. Don't answer questions or admit anything, including speeding. Be polite, provide ID if asked, and talk calmly and slowly. They can and will lie to you. Admit nothing and ask if you are being detained repeatedly until they let you go or arrest you, then ask for your lawyer. Never share/unlock your phone.

If you're in a car, crack the window but don't open all of the way. You can pass over registration and license. Again, admit nothing. Don't let them search the car. Don't smoke / keep drugs or weed in the car. If they come to your house, don't let them in or go out to meet them unless they have a warrant. They'll lie lie lie to get inside and search. Get your lawyer ready.

Be ready to 'burn' your #. Back up phone #s and not with your regular contacts.

Learn how to use VPNs. Free is fine at first but paid will make your life easier.

For first time meets at least, park nearby, not in front. For an AMP it doesn't matter but for a high volume escort or a hooker hotel, yeah, it could.

Finally, while you may love your wife / SO to pieces, accept the risk your fun may come to light and have a plan. Don't try to move $ or hide it. Adultery is not a factor in divorce settlements. You could fuck your MIL and SIL in front of your wife and she wouldn't be entitled to a dime more. If you try to hide $ though, you could go to fail, be fined heavily.

Good luck.

[ActionJohn]

Hire an actor or buddy to act as a tough guy. Tell this blackmailer to meet with you at safe place. Have your buddy come in and pretend to be an enforcer. He says nothing but looks tough. Tell her that if she tries anything, be vague about what harm could befall her. I did something similar with a squatter. Worked like a charm. No guarantees of course that it will work. All I can say is that is what I would do.

[Noob2022]

Long story but I am being blackmailed by a formed provider. I broke several rules and see has found out a lot and is threatening to tell my wife. I am at a loss of what to do. Any help is needed.

See a lawyer. Someone who specializes in criminal defense. Before talking to the cops. Spend the couple hundred for a consult and then tell them EVERYTHING this provider may have on you. Talk through the pros and cons of reporting this to the police before you do. If she has proof you committed a crime, what crime is it, what are the possible consequences, etc. - cops can and will charge victims of one crime with committing another one if they believe there is good reason to do so. And remember, when / if you do report this to the cops, whatever she had on you is likely to become part of the public record (factor that in to reporting or not).

Then talk to a divorce attorney or find a marriage counselor. Blackmailers don't go away. They drain you until the truth comes out. Paying delays the inevitable and you suffer while you wait for that other shoe to drop. When (not if) she tells your wife be prepared for what the reaction will be. Your other option here is to tell your wife before the provider can (or try to bluff the provider and tell her that you have already told your wife) get ahead of the story. Apologize tell her it was a one time mistake etc.

[QuickFoot]

Long story but I am being blackmailed by a formed provider. I broke several rules and see has found out a lot and is threatening to tell my wife. I am at a loss of what to do. Any help is needed.

So, here is the deal. Blackmail is illegal. If you have proof of these threats, you can take it to the police.

That does not mean you are held to anything you did with that provider, just don't admit to anything illegal. Just stick to the fact you are being blackmailed.

[Fireman0695]

Long story but I am being blackmailed by a formed provider. I broke several rules and see has found out a lot and is threatening to tell my wife. I am at a loss of what to do. Any help is needed.