Swingers

[Thirty3]

I agree. Not disclosing your birth gender when interacting with Someone should be a crime. I had a very close call with this one time.

Another thing I here is when people, specifically gay or bi, try to push into scenes that don't involve them.

[Sudcciv]

As if an excessive SURPLUS of OBESE WOMEN, Women into "Afro-American Men ONLY, and way too many guys at these places, is not challenging enough, NOW THE GENDER-JUMPERS are showing up to these places. That's right the "think-they-are-women" GENDER JUMPERS who believe dressing like one "makes" one. I saw NO LESS THEN 5 at "Thad's" in San Diego last night. It's time to stop going to this place if this is what the "clientele" has come to. Swinger places are challenging enough for a single male without having the FAKE WOMEN in the mix as well!

[Navajo101]

Hello,

My wife and are are entertaining the swingers lifestyle, but is at the very early stages of conversation. I read some folks first visits are casual and non committed in swapping, just watching and letting people watch. We are 57 and 48 years old and fit, height weight appropriate. Is there any place in the Naples, Ft Myers area where we could experiment and learn?

Thank you for you help.

Nav.

[GladiateHer73]

Bro the golden rule of swinging is "No means No", don't try to push things that will only make it awkward and unpleasant for all the participants.

I couldn't agree more here. I've been in the lifestyle on and off for years. My first wife and I were swingers. It truly sucked giving up the lifestyle with the divorce but, alas, she just wasn't the right person for me long-term. I've since remarried and my current wife has no clue I used to swing. That said, I casually brought it up early in our relationship to test the "subject matter" waters and was please to find out that she wasn't turned off at all. So. We went to a local club (one my previous spouse and I never attended before) just to see what it was like. We ended up having a great time just with each other and putting on a show for others. Went back and did some more of that and eventually met some people that I'm proud to say are really good friends of ours now. Slowly but steadily we extended our comfort zones and finally concluded that after some very careful conduct over the previous visits that we were, Indeed, both down with the lifestyle. Personally, I'm a cuck and live to see my wife getting her pu $$why fragged by a big schlong. She's not at all into woman and loves being on her knees in a circle of dudes giving her the noodle salad. Before visiting this club I honestly had no idea my wife was such a freak! Who knows. Maybe she didn't either!! LOL.

In summary, I never forced anything. I just simply let it grow organically. If I were sitting in the OP's shoes, I'd bring my spouse to a club with zero expectations. See where the night leads. If mutually comfortable, fuck in front of others. Have some fun and flirty time with others. Tread lightly. Tread carefully. And most importantly stay tuned to your mate's reactions / feelings / etc. Above all else. Do Not apply pressure either physically or verbally. Good luck!!

[GotrDone85]

My wife and I are gaining interest in the lifestyle. What are some resources to use in order to learn more and understand if there are any like minded couples in our area?

[GotrDone85]

My wife and I are gaining interest in the lifestyle. What are some good resources to learn more and maybe understand how to find other like minded couples in our area? 35 F and 37 M.

[Sudcciv]

If you go to the website "tubepornstars.com", and Enter "Czech Mega Swingers" in the Search menu, what comes up are clips some over 2 hours!) of what SHOULD HAPPEN at Swinger Parties!

Not sure if it is all "acting", or there are paid pornstars, or if it is honest-to-sex, over-the-top fucking in every corner of the house (and on the stairs too!

Swinger places can take some "cues" from these clips! .

[Sudcciv]

This place no longer exists-neither does "Club FA". Both went down during COVID. Neither have returned. Nor plan to. RIP!

Turns out that the swinger's place known as "ClubFA", has a "nudist resort" attachment to it (down the street and around the corner from it! The OLD "Deer Park Nudist Resort" is NOW KNOWN AS:

"Freedom Acres Resorts" and offers all the amenities for a weekend nudist resort (restricted to ADULTS ONLY however! And throws "pool parties" on alternating weekends. The staff is decent, the facilities are adequate, but the actual swingers, after an initial attendance with them, leave a LOT to be desired. Maybe I just attended on the wrong weekend, or was only in the presence of the OBNOXIOUS, DRUNK ONES! I may give it another chance. It's on the internet under "Freedom Acres Resorts" and is a SEPARATE FACILITY FROM (but OWNED BY! "Club FA".

[Johnny Shakes]

If you are travelling to Jamaica let me know.

Yes, I Am last week.

[DrHot]

Does anyone know how to do this, husband is saying he doesn't want to swing I believe him but- it's crazy he could totally get a great match from a couple, me on the other hand feels like I would be doing something wrong how did you figure things out?

Bro the golden rule of swinging is "No means No", don't try to push things that will only make it awkward and unpleasant for all the participants.

[Bud Green]

Does anyone know how to do this, husband is saying he doesn't want to swing I believe him but- it's crazy he could totally get a great match from a couple, me on the other hand feels like I would be doing something wrong how did you figure things out?

No, means no. I wouldn't push anyone into doing something they don't want to do that has a way of coming back and biting you. After 35 years together, I don't know what we have not done so if you are looking for a unicorn the best place is SeekingArrangments.com however you will need to help them with living expenses, and in turn, you have your fun and they go away until you call on them again. I have had civilian ones of both sexes and wow, what a nightmare. Another option is to check out a local swinger club, you don't have to do anything but have fun, Most are BYOB so you guys can watch, have a few drinks, maybe meet a couple of peeps and see if anything develops, most have dance floors and good music to dance too but if he isn't open to going or pursuing it. I recommend you don't pressure him. You can PM with any questions as I don't frequent this section often.

[HappilyMarried]

Does anyone know how to do this, husband is saying he doesn't want to swing I believe him but- it's crazy he could totally get a great match from a couple, me on the other hand feels like I would be doing something wrong how did you figure things out?

[Timonelama]

Was curious about Club Taboo so I called them. The guy said they're closed. No parties till next year.

Been there long time ago with my x-partner. I would highly recommend Club Taboo if or when opened again.

[HowieBenz]

If you are travelling to Jamaica let me know.

[Atheistically]

Turns out that the swinger's place known as "ClubFA", has a "nudist resort" attachment to it (down the street and around the corner from it! The OLD "Deer Park Nudist Resort" is NOW KNOWN AS:

"Freedom Acres Resorts" and offers all the amenities for a weekend nudist resort (restricted to ADULTS ONLY however! And throws "pool parties" on alternating weekends. The staff is decent, the facilities are adequate, but the actual swingers, after an initial attendance with them, leave a LOT to be desired. Maybe I just attended on the wrong weekend, or was only in the presence of the OBNOXIOUS, DRUNK ONES! I may give it another chance. It's on the internet under "Freedom Acres Resorts" and is a SEPARATE FACILITY FROM (but OWNED BY! "Club FA".