Non Pro's

[Fudgsicle]

https://members.seeking.com/member/3...d-a0b63e324ccf

Anyone got any info to share on her?

She's been on the site for a while but reverse image search reveals nothing and all the other info I have on her I'm unable to figure out if she's a real person.

[RichardQ]

Vanillawaferz.

https://www.secretbenefits.com/next/...5c4debc5c39ede

She is a little chubby, but a cute and interesting girl. She says she is dtf.

She has given me a last-minute cancellation twice. Has anyone had better luck?

[BBAsianLover]

Seeking seems to be a wasteland, has anyone tried secret benefits lately?

[SquidProRow]

Anyone have any experience with MysteriousBabe? Can DM if that helps.

https://members.seeking.com/member/9...6-fbc0f514dbf3

[Nilats]

Kind of depends on the situation.

If the shituation is really messed up, talking to them at all is pointless and a waste of everyone's time. If you are talking to them it rapidly becomes a negotiation and you don't need to negotiate.

A lot of times I'll just tell 'them I'm really super busy with work and am traveling for business. That even has the benefit of often being true. After a couple of months all but the most determined figure it out and move on. I do wear a roving manager hat in the extended family business and sometimes consult far away, so it is straightforward for me to tell 'them I have clients in Thailand or Turkey that I need to go deal with for a couple of months.

One reason PPM is really the way to go is that if you are giving them a monthly allowance there is no kind way to end it that isn't really rough for them. And even if I am pissed off and / or just sick of their crap doesn't mean I want to shit on their lives.

Completely agree, and same here. Have to not screw up their lives by being too much of a presence in all senses.

[SquidProRow]

Marcy, is in Spokane now and still on SA.

I tried searching Spokane for Marcy and I'm coming up empty. Anyone have the link?

[PriceIsRight39]

I personally think ghosting is just one of the worst things one can do to someone you have been seeing regularly. I even mention to my SB's at the start that it doesn't matter the reason / we are both adults. Just talk! Don't just disappear. It happens enough with the one-nighters where I don't care / don't expect more. But it's happened with ones I've seen weekly for greater than a year. And there's just no need.

Personal dating life. Only time it's happened is when I have gotten someone pregnant or an std was involved. If either of those happen in the SB life I'd want to know as well.

I really do wish them all well. But would love to know that they found someone; that they moved on; that my hotboxing a fart was too much for them; that my long toe was too crocked to ever look at again or that things simply ran their course / not feeling it anymore. Unread / single checkmark messages are just the worst after the last message from them was saying it was 'Wonderful as always to see you!

I said kind of ghost um. These are not typically LTR's. And I'm not the only one seeing them for sure. If they get weird you sometimes just have to drop them. They will do the same to me if they find a better situation. I don't take it personally. Well not any longer. Hehe.

[HelloThar]

Whenever I get the I miss you, when are you going to see me again messages and I don't want to see them again. I just reply with I have a lot of unplanned expenses and I am low on funds.

Magically they stop missing me 😉.

There was one who took half a day or more to always answer my texts. As soon as I mentioned cutting things off, holy shit did she reply fast, to the point where I wondered if she even read what I wrote. Just shows how anyone saying they're too busy to respond is usually bullshit.

[DelToro]

Whenever I get the I miss you, when are you going to see me again messages and I don't want to see them again. I just reply with I have a lot of unplanned expenses and I am low on funds.

Magically they stop missing me 😉.

[DrtyHarry]

Kind of depends on the situation.

If the shituation is really messed up, talking to them at all is pointless and a waste of everyone's time. If you are talking to them it rapidly becomes a negotiation and you don't need to negotiate.

A lot of times I'll just tell 'them I'm really super busy with work and am traveling for business. That even has the benefit of often being true. After a couple of months all but the most determined figure it out and move on. I do wear a roving manager hat in the extended family business and sometimes consult far away, so it is straightforward for me to tell 'them I have clients in Thailand or Turkey that I need to go deal with for a couple of months.

One reason PPM is really the way to go is that if you are giving them a monthly allowance there is no kind way to end it that isn't really rough for them. And even if I am pissed off and / or just sick of their crap doesn't mean I want to shit on their lives.

That is pretty much exactly how I do it. Honestly it is also partially true, I travel all the time for work, and can comfortably speak on the topic if need be. It is a lot easier to end it by just saying you are really busy and out of town than to get into a back and forth. For me I usually have 1 or 2 on backup waiting. I also prefer not fucking the same pussy for a while, variety is the spice in life for me. So PPM is the only arrangement that really works for me.

[Marko Ramius]

Kind of depends on the situation.

If the shituation is really messed up, talking to them at all is pointless and a waste of everyone's time. If you are talking to them it rapidly becomes a negotiation and you don't need to negotiate.

A lot of times I'll just tell 'them I'm really super busy with work and am traveling for business. That even has the benefit of often being true. After a couple of months all but the most determined figure it out and move on. I do wear a roving manager hat in the extended family business and sometimes consult far away, so it is straightforward for me to tell 'them I have clients in Thailand or Turkey that I need to go deal with for a couple of months.

One reason PPM is really the way to go is that if you are giving them a monthly allowance there is no kind way to end it that isn't really rough for them. And even if I am pissed off and / or just sick of their crap doesn't mean I want to shit on their lives.

[Paradigum]

They can get weird when it's over. You just fired their azz! Haha women today (and most men) are fragile AF. Also, never expect a women to take accountability. Best to just kind of ghost um TBH. Don't bring um into your personal life. They give two shits about us save the money. It's a fun pretend thy she's "special" and she loves you (I had one that proclaimed her undying love, yes!) but at the end of the day, then are in it for the money. They have been trained by weak fathers and the simps (online and real) that boost their egos. Very few could even cook you a decent meal. They are fun to penetrate however.

That's just my opinion and personal experience, so don't get up in your feelings if you see it differently. I've learned shit about young women I had no idea about in the time on SA. I'm not hating on the ladies, I just don't take them seriously. It's been more fun since I've seen the " code. ".

Peace.

Realize I only covered the ghosting on the SB's part. Ending it on the SD's part is hard yes. The 'grown apart' in terms of availability / schedule at work is the easiest I have found. I have tried to provide 'constructive feedback' in the past that has gone down as one might expect. But sometimes it does come down to just not feeling it anymore on the SDs part as well.

I will say that the hardest was one of my earliest arrangements where I was essentially paying for food and rent. Ending that was hard as it was leaving her in a tough spot (and that is where the just one more month) requests happened. Do need to stick to your reasons when it happens. No good answers. Certainly don't expect another 4 weeks of fun if you ever cave.

I do think my increased failure rate on the site is because I do prefer SB's who don't 'need' to be here. When we do hit it off I sometimes wonder why it isn't normal dating true. But then I remind myself what my ex wife cost me and then I realize that a ppm is sooooooo much cheaper than 50% of what I'm worth. Not to mention the variety compared to the headache.

Just my two cents.

[Paradigum]

They can get weird when it's over. You just fired their azz! Haha women today (and most men) are fragile AF. Also, never expect a women to take accountability. Best to just kind of ghost um TBH. Don't bring um into your personal life. They give two shits about us save the money. It's a fun pretend thy she's "special" and she loves you (I had one that proclaimed her undying love, yes!) but at the end of the day, then are in it for the money. They have been trained by weak fathers and the simps (online and real) that boost their egos. Very few could even cook you a decent meal. They are fun to penetrate however.

That's just my opinion and personal experience, so don't get up in your feelings if you see it differently. I've learned shit about young women I had no idea about in the time on SA. I'm not hating on the ladies, I just don't take them seriously. It's been more fun since I've seen the " code. ".

Peace.

I personally think ghosting is just one of the worst things one can do to someone you have been seeing regularly. I even mention to my SB's at the start that it doesn't matter the reason / we are both adults. Just talk! Don't just disappear. It happens enough with the one-nighters where I don't care / don't expect more. But it's happened with ones I've seen weekly for greater than a year. And there's just no need.

Personal dating life. Only time it's happened is when I have gotten someone pregnant or an std was involved. If either of those happen in the SB life I'd want to know as well.

I really do wish them all well. But would love to know that they found someone; that they moved on; that my hotboxing a fart was too much for them; that my long toe was too crocked to ever look at again or that things simply ran their course / not feeling it anymore. Unread / single checkmark messages are just the worst after the last message from them was saying it was 'Wonderful as always to see you!

[PriceIsRight39]

Is it just me or do the women on SA take it extremely poorly when you end things with them. I do it out of courtesy each time, but I'm beginning to think just ghosting is the better option with how badly many take it.

Have seen stuff from name-calling to blaming me for their deadfishing (my favorite, and I only met them once) to personality shifts. Hell, a couple have tried to get me to send them money as an obvious last hurrah when I'm pretty sure I'll never see them again. Some of these are women I've seen for months.

There's also this sentiment that you owe them the same thing even if they try to change the terms, then they lash out when that doesn't work for you. It's especially apparent when they get complacent about meetups. You definitely get a thicker skin over time dealing with all the bullshit.

Sort of a rant, but hopefully many can relate and / or learn from the 1 year mark that I've been on SA.

They can get weird when it's over. You just fired their azz! Haha women today (and most men) are fragile AF. Also, never expect a women to take accountability. Best to just kind of ghost um TBH. Don't bring um into your personal life. They give two shits about us save the money. It's a fun pretend thy she's "special" and she loves you (I had one that proclaimed her undying love, yes!) but at the end of the day, then are in it for the money. They have been trained by weak fathers and the simps (online and real) that boost their egos. Very few could even cook you a decent meal. They are fun to penetrate however.

That's just my opinion and personal experience, so don't get up in your feelings if you see it differently. I've learned shit about young women I had no idea about in the time on SA. I'm not hating on the ladies, I just don't take them seriously. It's been more fun since I've seen the " code. ".

Peace.

[PriceIsRight39]

So do you have anything to input about this one specifically or are you just speaking in general terms?

In general. I'm not sharing info on the ones I have but I'm sure y'all is in um too. Hehe. I will give intell on some here specifically. I have in the past. You can check my post.