Organic Allowance (with no preservatives)
[QUOTE=Dolato;2120877]Congrats on getting the sugar aspect all set up. Seems like work to work in the gifts, but kudos for getting it to work.
I wanted to ask, do you keep track of how much you're spending on cash and gifts and try to keep it to a certain amount?[/QUOTE]Early on when I was mostly doing cash and gift cards, I tried to keep it roughly to a certain amount. But as we talked more and I knew more of interests and needs, I was able to pick out gifts that she liked that didn't necessarily cost me a lot of money. For example, in our conversations she mentioned she wanted a case for her tablet that was pretty hard to find. I found and bought the case for only $40, but it might as well have been worth $200 because she wasn't expecting it and was extremely happy that I found it. I added a $50 gift card on top if it and still came way under my budget for the week. So gifts require a little more leg-work but you either get more savings or the SB just may be way more appreciative in the end.
Another thing I like about physical gifts is that I'm implanting constant reminders of me in her daily life. Every time she admires her tablet case, she will think of me. When she's able to get free coffee with the gift card I gave her, she will think of me. When she uses her year-long Netflix / Hulu subscriptions, she will think of me. When she puts on the sexy under-garments I bought her, even if she's with her boyfriend, she'll be thinking of me, haha. And etc. With the physical gifts, there's a lot of steady residual reminders of the positive elements she gets of our SD / SB relationship. If I just gave her cold hard cash everytime, she would just blow it in a couple of days and probably give zero thought to me, except to get more cash. Also I would be more vulnerable to getting outbid by another SD who simply offers up more cash. The gifts (which again are often based off our conversations) provide intangibles that aren't easily replicated. And it allows her to feel more comfortable sleeping with me "for free" on certain occasions because she knows the relationship overall gives her on-going value and she wants to keep me happy.
So for real SBs (not booty calls), I recommend trying to go this route. Start with a cash and gift card combo. Do this the first time you successfully hit the FC and never mention giving her a fixed amount per visit. Just give it to her and hopefully she's happy with it. And if she's happy with it then adjust the amounts of both (cash & gift cards) but keep the overall value roughly the same. You're training her to never expect the exact same cash amount, but that you're still being generous with some surprises. If things are still going well, then give her a Green Dot card or equivalent. At this point, stop handing her cash. Only give her money through the green dot either before or after the FC visit. Also mix it up, occasionally send her $40-50 for random things. Initially you might spend a little more than you normally do but gradually detaching cold cash from the FC and muddling the allowance / FC scorecard will benefit you in the long run if you do it right. It might be that you sent her $50-75 twice over a week or two, so you're not obligated to give her money the day of your FC date but you could still slip her a gift card or small gift to make her happy. Other times, you could splurge more on gifts or give her extra for a particular expense or event. The key thing is to keep things organic, fluid, and surprise her. If she starts to flake for a bit, then just subtly turn down the facet until things return to normal. Personally I think it makes for a better SD / SB relationship and it gives you flexibility with your budget. It may not always be cheaper, but you have flexibility and you can space your costs out. And it may not happen often but Nirvana is when she willingly sleeps with you without direct compensation on a particular date. It means you've successfully extracted all the escort / GPS viruses out of her and converted her into a real sugar baby.
I'm happy to share these secrets because I think this approach can help reverse the tide of the GPSs if it catches on and gets SBs behaving more like old-school mistresses and not escorts. With an escort, you're explicitly paying for sex. With a sugar baby, you give her money / gifts or treat her to nice things when she makes you happy. (Of course, sex makes most of us happy.).
A couple of caveats though. I've done this with 3 SBs so far, it worked great with 2 of them. However if you have a Nando1 SB. A SB who is constantly hitting you up for money or is always in major financial trouble or involved in drama, then this probably won't work. The Green Dot card will backfire and she'll be asking you for money all the time without her feeling the need to have sex with you. So this only really works for relatively stable SBs who have a job or maybe live at home. Girls who work or go to school, but just don't have enough time to spoil themselves (or have a boyfriend is incapable of it) or just need some extra spending money. With those type of girls, the organic approach can work.
Has Allowance Per Visit Backfired?
I'm in a writing mood tonight.
But I started thinking did us guys shoot ourselves in the foot when we started offering allowances per date? Because often times a date equals sex, so we've started to condition new Non-Pros and SBs to get payment for every sexual encounter.
Now this came as an evolution from an allowance per month. The problem with allowance per month is that new inexperienced SDs were being taken advantage of by young tight teasing SBs. SBs might say they needed to "get to know you better" before engaging in sex or the meetups would be inconsistent even though you already paid in advance for the month. So basically for the whole month the SD was trying to catch his money's worth, often failing.
In comparison, allowance per visit is much lower risk. You're outlaying a smaller amount and the chances of getting sugar for sugar is much higher. And if the girl is a dud it's easier to drop her or phase her out. A lot of girls like it too because it's easier to find a Pay per Visit SD compared to a monthly allowance one. And they can see multiple SDs in a month, instead of being at the beck and call of one SD for an entire month.
The downside is that we're breeding a bunch of booty call and UTR girls. They obviously have their place, but I think everyone can agree it's getting harder to find real SBs who understand they need to be a pleaser and spoil their SD in order for them to get sugar. Too many of them have GPS and want to get paid just for showing up at M&G with vapid / non-existent conversation. They've gotten the "Pay me First" mentality. Perhaps those type of girls would have never made good SBs, but I think they're have been entry level Non-Pros who could have been real SBs, but the Pay per Date steered them toward UTR / GPS.
To attempt to answer my own question, I think Allowance per Visit has made SD / SB arrangements more accessible to more guys, especially those coming from the mongering world of escorts and AMPs (which is just about all of us, LOL). We can try out more girls at a reduced risk. And if things don't work out with a particular girl, at least we got a one night stand out of it. I think it's created an excellent Booty Call market. SDFM should probably change its name to Booty Call For Me. But I also think the side-effect is that establishing real SD / SB relationships is becoming harder in the current climate where everyone wants instant compensation / gratification. And with many girls nowadays even if you try to switch to a monthly allowance, their performance will deteriorate after the 1st of the month because they already got their money. Or worse they'll treat it as one mega-booty call pay day and use the rest of the month to see other SDs on pay per visit basis. That's the type of SBs we're breeding.
The key is still to get them fresh and hopefully mold them into a proper SB before they get polluted. But of course, those are hard to find.