Is it possible to teach a masseuse new tricks
[QUOTE=Bob521;2743114]LOL. Very true.
Sometimes I wonder about the YMMV situation. Yesterday, when I was with a friend, we were talking and she broke into tears. Inconsolable. Told me how afraid she was every day. Afraid of Americans. Forced to sleep alone in the shop with no lights on. Seven days a week. I admit it brought me to tears also. Pretty funny massage. Two people lying side by side crying, hugging and kissing.
I have mostly Chinese friends. Not sure why. But nearly all of them have told me they are afraid of Americans. Many of the Chinese women that come here and work in AMPs are divorced. Mostly poor English. Unfamiliar with how things work in America. Constant threat of deportation.
So with that as a backdrop, we can sometimes scare our friends unintentionally. I can tell you I truly feel empathy for these women and I believe that they can see this empathy and are drawn to it. As I am drawn to them. Even if you are a casual visitor you can put them at ease and get much further in your session. And if you invest the time nothing is off the table. Bob.[/QUOTE]Bob, I have written a few reviews on this site and generally found it helpful. My discretionary income is not great enough to visit an AMP more than once a month. So I have been looking for one good provider. Similar in kind to the women who used to run the Devon Spa. No luck so far. I just wonder how you deal with the situation of the masseuse whose approach to a HJ is that of the piston like / jackhammer approach. I have visited one massage parlor the last three or four months and have seen the same masseuse each time. Trying to establish rapport. I suspect that at this AMP a HJ is all that will ever be offered unlike at the old Devon Spa. And that would be fine if there was at least an attempt to make the HJ a sensual act. At the last visit I tried to instruct her to slow down, and even took things in hand at one point to show her. To no avail. She immediately went back to the jackhammer rhythm. I guess that I must try to find a new place. But I have suffered the same jackhammer approach enough in my own limited experience that I dread to move to a new AMP only to suffer the same treatment. This last time I almost told the masseuse to just stop and finish the massage. Wondered what your thoughts are on the matter.